Do you find others ugly after being in love?

[PrettyPalmTree]

After knowing my first love for about 3 years now, I found out he was a truly horrible person; a narcissist/sociopath. I will never speak to him again. Even so, I can't seem to see anybody but him as physically-attractive anymore. Not even the most beautiful celebrities catch my eye. I know that's not the most important thing, but I can't help that it matters. I'm sure getting to know someone I'm not physically-attracted may help me see them differently over time, but maybe it won't. Plus I don't want to lead someone on while trying to see if I start to see them differently. I just can't see myself being with someone I have no physical attraction to... Yes, they do need more than good looks; a better heart and character than my ex. What have others experienced?

[limichelle]

I didn't like guys when I was with my ex because I felt nobody could be better then him with looks and his character. He was a decent guy so men just seemed ugly to me even celebrities I used to like. Then I took my blinders off after we broke up and saw the real ugliness was that underneath our love and relationship was nothing what I thought it seemed.

 

I think you need to take those blinders off and see his true ugliness. Then your eyes will pave way for somebody even more attractive.

 

I'm in a new relationship with who I think is the most beautiful man.

 

Lisa

[1a1a]

Yep, at the end of attraction, is a mild revulsion. (Sure it would be more than mild if they were particularly horrible).

[Capricorn3]

Do you find others ugly after being in love?

No, not at all. I must be the odd one out. I just can't relate to this at all.

[thejigsup]

No, can't say that I have. I like what I like, whether I'm single, with someone, or broken up. It hasn't changed. Now, when I'm with someone I have never acted on it, but it was there just the same. A good looking man is always good looking to me.

[HeartGoesOn]

I think the world in general, looks ugly directly after a breakup.

[Matt3939]

I think there's two different types of attraction. The person you are with that you feel something for when you see them. There's also the person on the street or tv yeah there great looking but who cares? I also think though. It doesn't matter how good looking you are. The best looking person can be the ugliest if they have hurt you bad enough.

[Zippy2000]

I didn't like guys when I was with my ex because I felt nobody could be better then him with looks and his character. He was a decent guy so men just seemed ugly to me even celebrities I used to like. Then I took my blinders off after we broke up and saw the real ugliness was that underneath our love and relationship was nothing what I thought it seemed.

 

I think you need to take those blinders off and see his true ugliness. Then your eyes will pave way for somebody even more attractive.

 

I'm in a new relationship with who I think is the most beautiful man.

 

Lisa

 

 

The anwer is YES. The reason why this is is because love is a feeling. Its chemicals, infatuation or whatever you call it. The feelings/chemicals die down over time. I ve had thoe feelings with people in the past. Im 42 now and I know what to look for and to take my time when I meet someone new.

 

You are in a new relationship now but its those feelinsg again but give it time and if he really is a true and decent person.....you will know through time.