Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 We were together for nine years. She dumped me 2 months ago. Been doing no contact for a month she started a relationship a week later. Overlapping relationship this is the text she sent me. I didn't reply yet. I'm sorry I couldn't make you happy. I'm for all of the pain I've caused you. I'm sorry we didn't have the life we both dreamed of. I'm sorry for everything. Not sure if she is still with the new guy. Was she just feeling guilty or does she want me back Link to comment
gebaird Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 I suspect she just feels guilty. It's quite common after a long-term relationship ends. If you're with someone new and she's (possibly) with someone new, any contact is equivalent to cheating. Block her everywhere. It will help you stay focused on healing and rebuilding your life. Link to comment
Wolfshook Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 She is sorry. It's normal. But dont read too much into that. Take this as a closure. Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Author Share Posted August 30, 2016 Why be so selfish can't she just leave me alone and be happy she is with someone else why send me a text like that. The damage is done why sorry after 2 months Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 This is an oblique admission that she was cheating and left you for this guy and now feels guilt. Try to stay no contact and ignore this.Been doing no contact for a month she started a relationship a week later. I'm sorry I couldn't make you happy. I'm for all of the pain I've caused you. I'm sorry we didn't have the life we both dreamed of. I'm sorry for everything. Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Author Share Posted August 30, 2016 Does she want me to relieve her guilt for her. Link to comment
gebaird Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Does she want me to relieve her guilt for her. Of course, but even if you respond with "I forgive you" it will still gnaw at her. She needs to work through this on her own, without your help since she chose to end the relationship. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 That's why blocking her is essential, so she can't pour salt in your wounds with her guilt drivel, adding insult to injury.Why be so selfish can't she just leave me alone and be happy she is with someone else why send me a text like that. The damage is done why sorry after 2 months Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Author Share Posted August 30, 2016 My friend think she is testing the waters with me Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 You mean she is trying to get you back by apologizing for being with her new guy she cheated on you with?My friend think she is testing the waters with me Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Author Share Posted August 30, 2016 I guess seeing how I would respond to sorry Link to comment
gebaird Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 I guess seeing how I would respond to sorry I'd stay the course and don't assume that all contact is an invitation to get back together. If she says "I want you back," then her meaning is clear. Everything else is just a game. Don't play games with your ex or the girl you are with now. People could get hurt. Link to comment
moodindigo91 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Yeah. Don't read too much into that. She's just sorry. Feeling guilty. This is a good sign for you in that maybe some day if you are both able to let go fully of the romantic feelings, you'll be able to be good friends. Other than that, I'd stay no contact and pretend it didn't happen. Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Author Share Posted August 30, 2016 Why play games can't she just leave it be and move on with her life why does she have guilt Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Not when you don't block her thus inviting her ongoing contact. she just leave it be and move on Link to comment
No1 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Why dont you just let it go? The reason why she sent you the text doesnt matter. Its not going to change the past so just let the reason behind the text go. If she sends you anything, just read it and delete it. Time should be more focused on you, not on her. Link to comment
Almira23 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 You literally keep asking the same question over and over again. It's like you are trying to have one of us tell you that she wants you back. Let it go. She apologized. You have closure now. Link to comment
No1 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 I guess seeing how I would respond to sorry Simplify your life and dont respond, that way you dont have to think of anything. Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 30, 2016 Author Share Posted August 30, 2016 I know why do I care what she thinks or says. I loved her I guess going to take me some time to move on... Link to comment
LoveSoReal Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 A lot of times when people break up, people have to generate a lot of negative energy in order to emotionally distance themselves from their partner. They hang onto all their bad memories like a security blanket. It's the only way they can stay numb to the fact they are causing their loved ones pain. This continues until even after the breakup because they do not want the possibility of falling back into a relationship they no longer desire to be in. But once enough time has lapsed and they feel it's safe to start letting go of some of that negative energy, they are able to start remembering some of the good times. They are also able to replay the breakup in their mind, but this time it's no longer obscured under a fog of anger and resentment. It's a much clearer picture where they can actually see the pain in your eyes and feel your broken heart. The pain they should've felt at the time comes back to haunt them like a ghost. That's when they write their apology. It could be for you, but I think it's moreso for them. To send that "sorry" out into the universe and hope that it takes the remaining sorrow and guilt with it. Link to comment
Tccc Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 That's just selfish to contact the dumpee and say sorry after 2 months through a text is even more shallow Link to comment
LoveSoReal Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 You ask why would she say that. You've known this woman for 9 years. You know her better than anyone. Do you truly believe in your heart of hearts her intent with the apology was to pour salt on your wounds? If yes, then why are you caring so much about a woman that does not care about you. If not, then why are you reacting as such. Hopefully after some time has passed and you have began to let go of *your* security blanket of bitterness and resentment, the process of healing can begin for you too. Maybe you'll even be able to see where you may have contributed to the situation and take responsibility. Maybe even she deserves an apology too. Because in the end, blaming others does nothing for your own emotional and spiritual growth. Only when you acknowledge your role in the demise of the relationship, and begin working on those faults, will you then be able to enter your next relationship a little wiser and not make the same mistakes. "When you lose, don't lose the lesson" - Dalai Lama Link to comment
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