Broke NC again..feel horrible..so lost

[jackiedavis]

Hi everyone,

 

Here is my story

 

So I broke NC again after 10 days, I logged on to facebook and saw he was hanging out with a bunch of friends including a girl I can't stand and he's always knows i've had an issue with her. He did write me back, we talked on chat for 2 hours. He said I read into everything and always jump to conclusions. He said she is his friend and they were hanging out with a group of people.

 

Anyway it seems he is still pretty angry, he told me 'right now' we need to move on, ''right not" he needs to focus on himself, "right now" I can't do anything to fix things for us. What's up with the "right now" Does that mean he may be missing me and changing his mind?

 

Anyway we ended on a good note, he apologized for things and said he has issues he needs to work out and so do i. I'm not sure what to think, i know i need to do NC again, i'm on day 3 now, but it's so hard for me to imagine my life without him...I am having such a hard time...I miss him so much soo very much. I want to get over him but I just don't know how. Please help

[kbbcoop77]

Block him everywhere so you aren't tempted to social media stalk him.

[gebaird]

I want to get over him but I just don't know how. Please help

 

The how is no contact.

 

The why is because contact doesn't help (do you feel better now that you saw him with another girl and he rejected you yet again?)

 

Your brain is holding on to anything because you want him back so badly. His "right now" probably means "from now on," but you hear hope in those words because you want so badly to have something, anything to hold on to.

 

What did you do 2 years ago before he was in your life? Do those things. Do you have a friend or therapist you can talk to? Do that too.

 

You have an addiction and you're going through withdrawals. It's going to suck for a while, but it will get better IF you stop breaking NC.

 

Healing isn't found by looking backwards at the life you had with him. It's found by looking forwards at the life ahead of you.

[Wiseman2]

Contacting him after breaking up to confront him about a girl in a pic while creeping his social media is not going to win him back. 'Right now' is not a sign of hope, the emphasis is on move on.

 

Retain your dignity and stop following him, confronting him, etc. It will help you heal.

I logged on to facebook and saw he was hanging out with a bunch of friends including a girl I can't stand and he's always knows i've had an issue with her. Anyway it seems he is still pretty angry, he told me 'right now' we need to move on, ''right not" he needs to focus on himself, "right now" I can't do anything to fix things for us

[ThatwasThen]

I'm just going to repeat to you what Wiseman told you in your other thread because it applied then and it certainly applies now.

 

Sorry but this relationship had issues all along from grossly divergent goals/values to turbulence to distrust/deceit. This last episode was just the final nail in the coffin.

 

Continue no contact and be relieved that this on/off mess is finally over.

 

Do your best to stop wishing that you were with him and accept that the relationship is over ~ as it should be because you two were NEVER on the same page. He does not want to marry you (or likely anyone else for that matter).

 

... and, do the self loving thing and stop creeping his social networking sites. You're just stagnating yourself from being able to move on and then finding someone who will want to marry you.