Is he lying to me?

[Lolo123]

So guys a few months back my boyfriend went on a boys holiday, when he came back he told me no girls but he got a lap dance, he told others he spent 250 euro in the strip club, that's not only for a lap dance is it? also I feel like he takes drugs also wen he is not with me as I've heard it before but he promised me he wasn't, but looking at conversations he is having he was, I really don't know what to do I really love him but I feel like I'm dating 2 guys in 1 body. He is one man when he is with me and the other when he is with his pals

[jujusamples]

So guys a few months back my boyfriend went on a boys holiday, when he came back he told me no girls but he got a lap dance, he told others he spent 250 euro in the strip club, that's not only for a lap dance is it? also I feel like he takes drugs also wen he is not with me as I've heard it before but he promised me he wasn't, but looking at conversations he is having he was, I really don't know what to do I really love him but I feel like I'm dating 2 guys in 1 body. He is one man when he is with me and the other when he is with his pals

 

As I started to get older, I learned that what my SO does when he's out with his buddies, I really don't need to know. I trust him. Your boyfriend is actually sharing with you part of what went on, on his trip. He didn't need to tell any of it, but he did. Do you trust him? To me, as long as my husband is good to me, is all that matters. If he tells me that's what happened, unless I have SOLID proof otherwise, I wouldn't start over thinking it. Second, what he does, is really out of your control. Could you accept the fact that he does drugs when he's with his buddy? To be honest, the real problem here is the trust issues.

[Longview01]

As I started to get older, I learned that what my SO does when he's out with his buddies, I really don't need to know. I trust him. Your boyfriend is actually sharing with you part of what went on, on his trip. He didn't need to tell any of it, but he did. Do you trust him? To me, as long as my husband is good to me, is all that matters. If he tells me that's what happened, unless I have SOLID proof otherwise, I wouldn't start over thinking it. Second, what he does, is really out of your control. Could you accept the fact that he does drugs when he's with his buddy? To be honest, the real problem here is the trust issues.

 

Ignorance is bliss hey?

[Scoe141]

If it's causing you anxiety, perhaps the stress isn't worth it.

 

Perhaps you need to find someone who won't blow their coin on strumpets and lap dances.

 

I'm sure you can find a guy with a different lifestyle. Good luck.

[lucidious]

He told you what he did and you can take it or leave it. He's still in that party animal phase of life it seems. Maybe date a guy who doesn't 'turn up' w/ drugs and strip clubs, if you can't trust him being in that environment. Like the above poster said, find someone with a different lifestyle than your bf.

[ControlDenied]

Dont let mistrust fester in a relationship! This is a cancer that must be cured via open a ruthlessly honest compassionate communication