First Love

[Rjp82370]

My ex boyfriend was my first love. We dated for a long time and I know 100% that I was in love with him. The problem is, I think I still am. I currently have a new boyfriend who I thought I loved but it doesn't feel the same as it did with my ex. My question for you is, do you think that your first love feels different then any other love? Also, do you think there's a problem that I still love my ex even though I have a new boyfriend or do you think that is natural being that he was my first love? Thanks

[musicman777]

Also, do you think there's a problem that I still love my ex

 

Yeah, I'm gonna stop you right there. You don't love your current boyfriend because you still have feelings for your ex. This isn't about him being your "first love". If you honestly still love your ex, then you are not over him and shouldn't be dating other people, plain and simple. Do your current boyfriend a favor and break up with him because you are wasting his time and using him by dating him when you still have feelings for someone else.

[LadyRayne]

First loves always do feel special but sadly in my opinion first loves never seem to work out but people sometimes tend to romanticise the relationship even if everything in the relationship wasn't working.

 

How long before you met your new BF had you broken up with your first BF? If it was a very short time period you may not have processed the breakup. It doesn't always happen most times people don't even think about what they are doing but it's a good idea to take stock of what happened in your previous relationship and learn about yourself and take time to heal and reflect before dating again

 

Whether there is a problem in your dynamic is down to you.. If you are comparing your new BF to your ex, comparing what he does or doesnt do that you are unhappy about then it's going to be a big problem. You have to take your new BF for the person he is. It feels different because he's not your ex. If you can accept that without it interfering in your relationship it can be worked on. If you don't care for him and still pinning over the first BF it would be kinder to let him go until you are over your ex.