Guy liked me a lot, now he's ignoring me.

[gye319]

I've met this guy that seemed extremely interested in me. He got my number & we texted and proceeded to hang out. We went on a date that went extremely well & we also had sex. A few days after that day he was very attentive, saying he missed me and everything. We proceeded to hang out a few days later. We chilled at my place and also had sex again. The day after that he began to ignore me and when I confronted him he said things were moving along too fast and he needed space. Even though he was the one that was moving things along quickly. What should I do? Will he ever like me again or has he stopped? Btw he leaves for school in less than a month and won't be back for 5 months am I wasting my time

[j.man]

He may have just hit it and quit it but I'm also wondering about you "confronting" him for ignoring you over the course of a single day. Why do you think he was ignoring you as opposed to not being attached to his phone?

[gye319]

I'm pretty sure he didn't hit and quit. He genuinely was not talking to me for sex, he never brought it up at all. It's just one thing led to another. And I know he was ignoring me because he was on social media. He even told me he needed space and things were moving too fast

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately it sounds like he's looking for hookups/netflix and chill, but not a relationship. Go no contact and don't chase men who are not looking for the same thing as you are.

 

Have you read the book "He's Just Not That Into You"? It may offer you some tips on identify guys who are truly interested and those who are just time-wasters.

We went on a date that went extremely well & we also had sex.We chilled at my place and also had sex again. The day after that he began to ignore me and when I confronted him he said things were moving along too fast and he needed space.

[j.man]

I'm pretty sure he didn't hit and quit. He genuinely was not talking to me for sex, he never brought it up at all. It's just one thing led to another. And I know he was ignoring me because he was on social media. He even told me he needed space and things were moving too fast

These things are hard to tell between whether sex was all he wanted or if the woman gets too attached / "scary" after.

 

Confronting someone for ignoring you simply because they had the audacity to unwind on social media without getting back to your text / IM isn't good at any point of development, much less after only having met someone for a weekend. I'd personally take it as a warning of things to come and bail out.

[moodindigo91]

I agree with j.man, I think you made a series of mistakes already. Mistake number 1 was sleeping with him on the first date. Mistake number two was sleeping with him on the second date. Mistake number three was "confronting" him for ignoring you after one day. Mistake number four is more personal, because I hope you didn't say this to him: the fact that you knew he was on social media and not texting you back... kind of paranoid/stalkerish sounding. This is what women do when they're in relationships with someone for a long while, and even then it's paranoid/stalkerish. If you said anything about that to him, there's no question that he's running away.

[1a1a]

To be fair, facebook does rub it in your face when people are online, have "read" your message, and still, no reply comes.

 

I'm sorry he's cooled off. Definitely time to give him some space, it'll be a win win for you, since you'll be investing your energy in you things, if he doesn't come back, you'll be that much closer to being back to being happy without him, and if he does realise with some space he is still keen and come a knocking again, that'll be a pleasant bonus.

[melangey]

Don't forget the move. Sounds like he's keeping his options open. You should, too.