The Other girl Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 a Couple of months back i met this guy . we had a connection instantly . we started hanging out and we both admitted we liked each other very much . everything was going on fine .we decided that both of us were not ready for a relationship , though we were basically in one . but its theway we liked things . a month or so into everything , i found out he had been having a fling with one of my friends bestfriend . i confronted him about it. he told me what had happened , they had hooked up before he met me and he never really ended their little fling . he told me he would end their fling . and apparently he did . weve had the best couple of months , and i thnk i fell in love with him. about a week ago he asked me to tell him how i feel , honestly from the heart . i wrote him a heart felt emotional letter basically opening uo myself to him ..and until today he hasnt said anything about , ok not really anything ,he told me that he wants to reply to my letter with a clear mind, right now he has a lot of work . im really impatient . ontop of that , a few days ago , the girl he had a fling with posted an intimate pictur of the both of them together .. i havent confronted him about it .mainly because i have a lot on my plate . i dont even knwo what to say to him . in my past relationships ive alway been the other girl , bare in mind i never knew i was the other girl up until the end . i dont know what to do . ... how do i confront him about this , what do i say to him? The other girl: Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 You two need to talk not write letters back and forth! Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 Obviously he's playing the both of you. What more evidence do you need? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 I don't get it. He is cheating on you both. What more info do you need? You shouldn't say anything, you should be done. Expect more for yourself ! Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 He's using you both and enjoying it. What else do you need? You have the evidence in black and white. Either get with the harem or get out, there isn't another option. Link to comment
rayfutz Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 a month or so into everything , i found out he had been having a fling they had hooked up before he met me and he never really ended their little fling he told me he would end their fling he asked me to tell him how i feel i wrote him a heart felt emotional letter basically opening uo myself to him he told me that he wants to reply to my letter with a clear mind, right now he has a lot of work a few days ago , the girl he had a fling with posted an intimate pictur of the both of them togethe in my past relationships ive alway been the other girl , bare in mind i never knew i was the other girl up until the end Sounds like a guy who has 2 girlfriends, and he's getting away with it. Wont be long before he has 3 or more if he is allowed. How long are you going to let him treat you like a doormat? You came here for unbiased anonymous advice from people who have an undiluded outside perspective. Everyone is telling you it looks like this guy is cheating and getting away with it. You should demend crystal clear answers as to what is going on, and evidence you can see. Do this out of respect for yourself. Or, do not dig into details and let him continue on his woman collecting. Link to comment
The Other girl Posted August 25, 2016 Author Share Posted August 25, 2016 Thank you for the replies . I've ended things before , for the reason same reason , that I didn't want to be a doormat , he just keeps coming back ... and because we have an amazing time spending time together I keep falling into his trap . I want to get out of it thank you guys The Other Girl Link to comment
tracyis300 Posted August 26, 2016 Share Posted August 26, 2016 It's easy to say that he's a cheater and you should leave him. But when it comes to it? It can be little difficult to do with out really knowing the full background of the other side. The best advice to give? Is to contact the other girl and see what kind of relationship she has with him. Then ask him about it? If he lies or bends his words? Then it will just make things easier for you to make a decision on what to do next? Link to comment
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