Still have feelings for my ex...

[Rjp82370]

My ex (we'll call him Chris) and I dated for only 6 months but we've been best friends for 3 years. He told me he wanted to break up because he didn't want to be tied down and he didn't have time to focus on a relationship right now. He cheated on me (via text message) while we were dating. He would always talk to other girls and flirt with them and ask them to send him provocative photos of themselves. Some time after we broke up, I started dating a close friend of mine (we'll call him Dallas) We've been dating for a while now but I still keep thinking about Chris and all of our memories together and how I don't think I love Dallas like I love(d) Chris. Dallas treats me very well and is basically the picture perfect boyfriend. He spends any free time he gets with me and he puts me first. He always reminds me of how much he loves me and how much I mean to him. Chris never did any of this but there was just something about him. I was 100% certain that I felt the same way about Dallas as he did until I started to realize that I miss Chris. A few weeks ago, he (Chris) told me that he regretted breaking up with me but then he found out I had been talking to Dallas so it was too late for him.

 

Since i feel this way about Chris and I keep missing him, do you think it sounds like I'm with Dallas just to fill the void or is it perfectly okay that I feel this way about Chris even though I have a new boyfriend?

[LadyRayne]

How long after your breakup did you start dating Dallas? It sounds to me you were not ready to date again because you hadn't heal. If you don't care for Dallas it's really not fair to waste his time especially if you see no future with him. If he's a good guy dont string him along... Are you afraid to be alone? Alone time after broken relationships are ideally the best way to recover and grow and learn about yourself

[Wiseman2]

Some women have a thing for bad boys and unavailable men...Are you one of them? Yes it sounds like you are using Dallas to fill a void.

He told me he wanted to break up because he didn't want to be tied down and he didn't have time to focus on a relationship right now. He cheated on me (via text message) while we were dating. Since i feel this way about Chris and I keep missing him, do you think it sounds like I'm with Dallas just to fill the void or is it perfectly okay that I feel this way about Chris even though I have a new boyfriend?

[SoulTaker]

My ex (we'll call him Chris) and I dated for only 6 months but we've been best friends for 3 years. He told me he wanted to break up because he didn't want to be tied down and he didn't have time to focus on a relationship right now. He cheated on me (via text message) while we were dating. He would always talk to other girls and flirt with them and ask them to send him provocative photos of themselves. Some time after we broke up, I started dating a close friend of mine (we'll call him Dallas) We've been dating for a while now but I still keep thinking about Chris and all of our memories together and how I don't think I love Dallas like I love(d) Chris. Dallas treats me very well and is basically the picture perfect boyfriend. He spends any free time he gets with me and he puts me first. He always reminds me of how much he loves me and how much I mean to him. Chris never did any of this but there was just something about him. I was 100% certain that I felt the same way about Dallas as he did until I started to realize that I miss Chris. A few weeks ago, he (Chris) told me that he regretted breaking up with me but then he found out I had been talking to Dallas so it was too late for him.

 

Since i feel this way about Chris and I keep missing him, do you think it sounds like I'm with Dallas just to fill the void or is it perfectly okay that I feel this way about Chris even though I have a new boyfriend?

 

This sounds like the classic "he's a nice guy, but..." situation. Dallas doesn't have the "it" factor, that you experienced with Chris. You need to take a break from dating until you clear your head.

 

As for Chris's remark about not going back with you, it's just an excuse to make him feel good with the lame attempt to go back with you. You might also want to expand your dating radius to include men that you're not close friends with.

 

BTW - How did Chris know that you were dating Dallas?