How do I behave?

[Brutal555]

About 20 days ago my girlfriend broke up with me because of reasons such as "I don't want to hurt you" and all that bull. I am seeing things a lot clearer now. Basically, she has anxiety, panic attacks, fears, does things to "test me", has messed up family, cries a lot, has mood changes, talks about her first ex... But we've known each other back from high school, I liked her and she "friendzoned" me for a long time, and then I decided not to talk to her anymore, then she was chasing after me for 6 months and after I decided to kiss her, and yeah, we've been in a 4 months long relationship where she tried to break up 4 times because "she's sick", "she's like that", "I can't love her because of her state", "Doesn't wanna get attached"...

In a month I'll be going to the same college where she's going and I'm not really sure how to behave over there. She would probably try to make me jealous or something like that. I don't really want to give her any attention but still I can't walk around like an mad serious guy whenever she's nearby and I'm not really sure If getting back with her would ever be a good decision

[Wiseman2]

Treat her like anyone else. No less, no more.

I don't really want to give her any attention but still I can't walk around like an mad serious guy whenever she's nearby and I'm not really sure If getting back with her would ever be a good decision

[Brutal555]

Treat her like anyone else. No less, no more.

 

So glad you replied. That's what I was thinking. Although she has problems with getting accepted by people, I usually don't. I am going to work on spreading as much positivity as I can. And If she speaks to me I'll do my best not to do any personal talking, but only thing bothering me is that she'll try and make me jealous by walking around with some other guys or smth like that, I think the best thing to do then would simply be: ignore?

[SherrySher]

Yes..simply ignore. You have the right idea.

[DancingFool]

She is a mess. I wouldn't be jealous, I'd feel sorry for whatever guy she latches onto.

 

Anyway, treat her like an empty space and move on. There will be plenty to do, other girls to meet and date, new friends to make, etc. Go and live your life and stay away from messy messed up girls.

[Brutal555]

She is a mess. I wouldn't be jealous, I'd feel sorry for whatever guy she latches onto.

That's what I've telling myself. No guy would tolerate that much drama and that many messed up things and informations.

Thank you, you really made me feel better

[DancingFool]

That's what I've telling myself. No guy would tolerate that much drama and that many messed up things and informations.

Thank you, you really made me feel better

 

lol....you'd be surprised how many sad desperate guys will put up with just about anything..... You just don't join their ranks and stoop that low.

Anyway, the beauty of college is that you get to leave high school behind literally and figuratively speaking. It's the best time of your life, so don't waste it being stuck in the past.

[Brutal555]

lol....you'd be surprised how many sad desperate guys will put up with just about anything..... You just don't join their ranks and stoop that low.

I never allow myself to get that low. I did feel panic and I did feel desperate when she wanted to break up and I made a mistake trying to stop her from doing it and was trying to reach her when she started acting so cold and mean that I couldn't recognize her anymore. Then I just decided - enough, I'm out of here. She was the first girl that I actually loved but loving her was causing me more pain than pleasure. The more the time goes by the more I think it's for the best for things to stay as they are

[Knot2loud]

Time to stay moved on from that drama queen. You need her like you need a lobotomy.