Disheartened

[Jovahutc]

So it looks like I will lose. It looks like I will lose my daughter to my ex. I've asked her, I've begged to stay in my daughters life but she won't let me. For the record I was never a bad father. We had a dysfunctional relationship me and her. She is manipulative, she demeaned and disrespected me daily when I was providing for her. She blacked my eye, stabbed me. I had one bad night where she attacked me and I lost my cool, and now I'm going to lose my daughter for it. She is really using this domestic abuse thing to her full advantage, we got in the court room and they didn't even inquire about her side of the abuse. All that mattered is that one time the whole five years we were together I messed up. All that matter is that I lost my cool. Even though I asked her to leave every time we moved to a new residence and she still followed me. Even though all her things are still here now. She wants to destroy me, she takes my daughter away from me and my family when she's upset, like my daughter is a pawn. She just let me keep her three weekends ago, now she won't let me see her at all. I'm tired, so very tired. With the domestic abuse allegations I'm afraid I've lost my daughter. I've always been a good father... I provided fully for years because the mother doesn't want to work. I held her hand during the birth of my child. And now because I made some mistakes I deserve to be shut out my daughter life??? This has been a long process and hurtful, and it's not looking to be in my favor after this I'm done, I give up. For a while now I've been thinking of just slitting my wrists and letting go. The pain seems to be more than I can bear... I can't function anymore. If I lose my daughter, I've got no purpose other than to give all of my paychecks to child support. My future isn't looking so bright. If this ultimately happens.... I can't go on.

[melancholy123]

Please dont do harm to yourself, this will make it worse for your child. One day she will be 18 and a legal adult and then she can choose to have a relationship with you. Dont take that away from her. There are support groups for men in your situation, please find one and see if they can help you.

[Jovahutc]

Where, where is the support? I'm about to lose it all ... I'm a good man. But I'm about to hit rock bottom. Where is the support. If i have to miss out on her growing up that will destroy me. I made some mistakes... I don't deserve this. I'm crying now I'm begging at her knee... But she just shoves me away.

[Pisces72]

I would seek out a lawyer as soon as possible. They can give you better advice and counsel for dealing with this type of situation.

[Tanzi]

You have rights. Go see a lawyer. Stop fighting with your ex because she will just fight back. Do it through the legal route.

 

The chances are she is just cutting off her nose to spite her face at the moment. She knows it is getting to you and boy is she going to try to hurt you. In time she will realise that it is probably more beneficial to herself to have you in your daughter's life. This could all change once the emotional dust settles.

 

Don't give up on your daughter.