Sharmone Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 My boyfriend of 3 years always disrespects me and says crude or racist stuff bout people in company, I cringe and don't know what to do or how to get through to him. He knows I suffer terrible anxiety and I've tried to explain how I feel, and that I think eventually someone will punch him cus they will be so offended, he says I take it out of context and I'm over sensitive, he tells people in pub where we go personal things that I've asked him not to tell and he's got loose lips and a foul mouth, even made a joke about paedophiles when a bloke wAs holding a newborn baby and I was so embarrassed. I could've cried, I'm thinking of callin it a day as I'm under so much pressure. He just doesn't get the affect it has on me. I feel I can't trust him and that he's causing trouble with people! Any advice please??? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 16, 2016 Share Posted August 16, 2016 Yeah, just dump him he has no filter and no boundaries. You can do better than this loudmouth insensitive bigot. I'm thinking of callin it a day as I'm under so much pressure. I feel I can't trust him and that he's causing trouble with people! Any advice please??? Link to comment
LadyRayne Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 Leave... He is not only disrespectful to you he is to anyone and everyone so I don't see that as some dysfunction of the relationship that is who he is and he won't change... And you will probably feel much better anxiety wise once he's in your past Link to comment
Lester Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 Yes. In time, you're continued support, (i.e., just being there),of his not so funny behavior will turn on you. (Abuse) Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 Ask yourself what you're getting out of this relationship? Yes...Dump him! Link to comment
ControlDenied Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 What does it say about you that you continue to be in this relationship? Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 Dump him, you will probably feel a lot better once you kick him to the curb. Maybe he needs that punch in the face you talked about. Link to comment
Sharmone Posted August 17, 2016 Author Share Posted August 17, 2016 Thankyou for your answer. I've told him last night after posting on here that it's over, it broke my heart as he is not all bad but I do suffer terribly with anxiety and worry about consequences of his behaviour whereas he is oblivious, he didn't react well, said I take his jokes out of context and am over sensitive, and he's sick of apologising. He made me feel it's me, my fault!? He said lots of others found him funny but I didn't, surely I'm right to feel offended? Doubting my own thought here? Link to comment
Sharmone Posted August 17, 2016 Author Share Posted August 17, 2016 I think it says I lack confidence and self esteem and that I keep hoping he would change. Does it make me a bad person? Link to comment
Sharmone Posted August 17, 2016 Author Share Posted August 17, 2016 Do you agree that sooner or later someone would have probably punched him? I've always thought so, he just doesn't see the red light!!! Link to comment
musicman777 Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 I think it says I lack confidence and self esteem and that I keep hoping he would change. Does it make me a bad person? Will you snap out of it? There's nothing wrong with you. Clearly it's this boyfriend of yours. His "anxiety" isn't an excuse to be an insensitive drick. Leave this idiot and find someone better. Link to comment
Knot2loud Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 My boyfriend of 3 years always disrespects me and says crude or racist stuff bout people in company, I cringe and don't know what to do or how to get through to him. He knows I suffer terrible anxiety and I've tried to explain how I feel, and that I think eventually someone will punch him cus they will be so offended, he says I take it out of context and I'm over sensitive, he tells people in pub where we go personal things that I've asked him not to tell and he's got loose lips and a foul mouth, even made a joke about paedophiles when a bloke wAs holding a newborn baby and I was so embarrassed. I could've cried, I'm thinking of callin it a day as I'm under so much pressure. He just doesn't get the affect it has on me. I feel I can't trust him and that he's causing trouble with people! Any advice please??? Really!? You're still with this guy? He's an idiot. Do you want to be attached to an idiot? He may be great in the sack, but outside of that... How do you spell M-O-R-O-N... Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 I could not be in a relationship with a racist. I don't know how you could. Link to comment
Lester Posted August 17, 2016 Share Posted August 17, 2016 said I take his jokes out of context and am over sensitive, and he's sick of apologising. He made me feel it's me, my fault!? He said lots of others found him funny but I didn't, surely I'm right to feel offended? Doubting my own thought here? Don't second guess yourself over his broad, generalized statements. Link to comment
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