girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me

[ilovesadi]

hey guys so the story is that ive been dating my gf for 2.5 years she went on a vacation to see her dad back home for a month and this random kinda friends sent her a message and she came forward and told me that they talked only for 5 min or so about random stuff, stupidly i over reacted and accused her that she is something on my back and she was saying and dont ruin our relationship over something small and stuff. so she broke up with me but still has my pictures on her instagram and her relation status on facebook is in relationship, for two three days i was literally begging her to give me another chance and she is saying there is no trust. she is saying that she wants to enjoy her single life and with her friends. she also told to not worry that she is not looking for a boyfriend or dating. so after all at first she was asking for a break so she could find herself again stupidly i started call her to forgive me, now she is saying she is done. i told her at least do something for me the remaining of your vacation im not gonna contact you so she could have her space and when she came back give me an answer which is in 20 days.

what could i do for her when she came back ? i was thinking maybe get her a big rose bouquet and a gift and just give to her mom (she likes me alot and in general a very cool mom, very open minded ) to lay it on her bed so when she came home she would be surprised?

i dont wanna lose her, i dearly love and thats why i was so protecting over her, past 3 days that she broke up with me literally i cant eat anything or do something, all im doing is looking at her social media account to her if she did something or post something.

i know i did screwed up but i dont wanna lose a chance to loose her.

 

background information:

i know that she is or atleast used to be mad in love with me and asked me out, she is very outgoing and right now is surrounded by her 3 friends that all are singles and im worried .

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. Unfortunately it sounds like like she wants to be free. Whatever the issues are, go no contact and let this cool off...then see what happens when she gets back. Let her come to you, don't reach out any more.

i over reacted and accused her that she is something on my back and she was saying and dont ruin our relationship over something small and stuff. she is saying there is no trust. she is saying that she wants to enjoy her single life and with her friends.

[tattoobunnie]

A rose does not say, "hey, I'm no longer jealous, and will never doubt you again." Essentially, every time you accuse her of something, you are telling her she's a giant ho who can't control herself.

 

So instead of plotting what to do next for her, why not trying spending the 20 days working on yourself, and figuring out why you have such giant trust issues.

 

Last I check, no single friend of mine ever got me to spread my legs for other people.

 

And keep in mind, you are broken up, so you don't get to hold anything she does against her. I could care less that she used to be mad in love with you. You obviously have been given chances, and are just suffocating her.

[ControlDenied]

For god sake! Do not give her flowers! It will not help you!!! What century are you living ? Act like a man, do not beg. Go back to being the same man she was attracted to in the beggining, can you be that man again?

[ControlDenied]

I would do something like this:

- I will inmediately stop contact with her.

- I would pack everything I have from her, gifs clothes etc. I would put everything in a nice box.

- I will give it to her with a note that says: Thank you for everything, I do not need to have any of this anymore. You made me a better man for 2.5 years and that will stay with me forever. I appreciated every minute. I'm disapointed it ended after something so silly.

- Then go on and live your life to the fullest. Follow your dreams and be a great man.

 

This plan she will notice and she will feel attracted to as long as you act like a man. She will start second guessing and maybe she might knock on your door, and maybe you may open the door.