Recently broken up, what do these signals mean?

[Jack33drummer]

My ex and I broke up a few weeks back, she dumped me as I told her I wouldn't marry her if all else fails to keep her in the country with me.

 

She's Moroccan, I'm British and living in London.

 

Her student visa runs out in 6 months and we've been together for 2 years now, knowing eachother for a total of 4 years.

 

We've had our problems but it came to a point where she asked if I would marry her to stay with her. We are in our mid 20's and I'm not looking for marriage now.

 

I told her I won't Marry her to keep her here, but I will do anything else. She broke up with me.

 

She tells me she still loves me, she misses me. It's been a few weeks and now out of the blue, she asks me to spend a night in a hotel together.

 

Not sure what to do, I miss her, love her and want to get back together.

 

Is spending a night in a hotel together, going to put us back together?

 

Is this a sign a woman has been with another guy while we've been apart or does this mean her interest completely lies with me?

[RainyCoast]

i'm quoting Victoria here. my visa is running out marry me REEKS of trouble. i'd keep away.

[LadyRayne]

Do you think you are able to handle the emotional trauma when she breaks up with you again? Look I've been with visa hunters and I know it is very difficult to let go but I have so many friends who have been burnt... Not everyone is out to use people for a visa but when someone dumps because you don't want to be married right now it doesn't look good. Also another thing occurred to me if she's Muslim her parents are likely to want your Union to be legitimised maybe that's why she's pressuring you. I believe that Morrocans are a little more liberal than other Muslims countries obviously depending on the family but I cannot see that her family would be happy with a defacto relationship... Just something to think about...

[Wiseman2]

It's a sign that she'll do anything to persuade you to sponsor her/marry her. Isn't it a bit insulting to be used as means to an end with regard to her visa status?

 

Before you go to the hotel reinforce that marriage is not an option...see if she cancels.

Her student visa runs out in 6 monthsWe are in our mid 20's and I'm not looking for marriage now. I told her I won't Marry her to keep her here, but I will do anything else. She broke up with me. Is spending a night in a hotel together, going to put us back together?

[Blue Ridge]

I wouldn't spend a night at a hotel with an ex for all the tea in China. There is no chance this is just going to be a night of bliss for old time's sake.

[Unscrewed]

No, it won't put you back together. She was being logical. Getting a non-student visa for non-EU citizen is ridiculously hard. She needs a high paying job and I doubt that is possible for a fresh graduate.

Unlike others, I think she has real feelings for you. Why? Because I was in her stead. But this is a situation beyond your control. It's logical to break things up now.

[moodindigo91]

No, no, no, and hell no. Do not spend a night with her in a hotel lol for all you know she will get you drunk as a skunk and elope with you without you realizing it until morning (okay, this is far-fetched but I'm trying to drive home the point that the ONLY reason she wants to be with you now is so you can marry her so she can stay in London).

 

Just move on. Find someone who wants to marry you just because they want to marry you and spend their life with you, not because time is running out on their student Visa.