Need help deciding if I should apologize or start NC phase or what

[cclemon]

Hi,

I will try to be very brief.

My 6 years girlfriend broke with me 2 weeks ago after a lot of mistakes I made for the past months (like not talking to much to her, not vising her during the week and screaming at her when I was nervous). I thought about it alone for some time and saw that I was being an idiot and I don't want to miss her.

In the same day she broke with me, I tried to convince her to give me a chance (I didn't beg, just talked to her normally), but she was very angry and said she needs some time alone to think and could not decided anything yet.

 

One week later (last week), a mutual friend of ours told me she still likes me, but is insecure about me really liking her. So, last week I decided to send her a whatsapp message every two or three days, just to show that I miss her and make her smile, like this:

*Photography of my cat*

"Hey, look who is missing you"

 

Normally, she answers with a happy smile and the conversation ends there. She is still very angry, so I don't even try to extend it.

I feel I didn't apologize to her as much as I should, maybe she thinks I'm not aware of my mistakes.

 

My question is:

What I should do next?

1 - Should I text her a small message saying that I know I made mistakes and I'm sorry. And start a real NC phase (without the whatsapp messages)

2 - Just stop sending those stupid whatsapp messages and start NC phase

3 - Keep doing what I'm doing (sending whatsapp messages), so she doesn't think I forgot her and don't want her anymore

4 - Other option??

 

I appreciate any help!

[jujusamples]

2 - Just stop sending those stupid whatsapp messages and start NC phase

 

Your girlfriend has already made the decision to break up with you. A breakup should not be taken lightly. It's final. Start the no contact and start healing. You are never going to heal and move on if you keep sending those messages. It's done and it's over.

 

You don't need to apologize. She already broke up with you. You have to stop hoping that things might change and you will get back together. Even if that is the case, it will never work out unless you get over whatever lead to the breakup in the first place. You will just end up at square one. The longer you keep sending messages and stay in contact with her, the harder it will for you to get over the relationship.

 

I know it's hard after a 6 years relationship, but at one point or the other you just have to accept the fact that it has ran it's course. Start no contact and try to work on yourself.

[dave_1966]

Everything you are doing is wrong, it's shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted. Even planning a NC 'phase' is stupid because it implies it's part of the plan to get her back like those disgusting get her back in thirty days rip off sites. NC should now be forever in order for you to heal, and that means blocking her on on your phone, social media, everything. She's made her choice, and you're now indulging in creepy stalker behaviour. For your own sake, and to heal quick, stop this bs now and move on.

[Wiseman2]

Go no contact and stop sending all this stupid stuff.

 

It indicates that you miss her, not that you're sorry for anything or decided to stop being "an idiot".

 

She can't miss you or cool off with all this stuff rolling in. Wait for her to contact you and stop listening to friends' hearsay and basing things on that. Patience is your friend.

last week I decided to send her a whatsapp message every two or three days, just to show that I miss her and make her smile, like this:

*Photography of my cat*

"Hey, look who is missing you"

[cclemon]

Thanks for the replies!

 

I will just stay NC. I'm really getting better, but that doesn't mean I don't want to get her back anymore.

 

Go no contact and stop sending all this stupid stuff.

 

It indicates that you miss her, not that you're sorry for anything or decided to stop being "an idiot".

 

She can't miss you or cool off with all this stuff rolling in. Wait for her to contact you and stop listening to friends' hearsay and basing things on that. Patience is your friend.

 

I will do it. If she contacts me, would it be better to apologize her for what I did or what?