Is it cheating to fantasise about somebody other than your partner?

[thornz]

Just curious as to other's opinions on this.

 

Do you believe it is cheating to fantasise about somebody other than your partner whilst masturbating?

 

Have you done this, would you feel uncomfortable doing this?

 

Do you think there is a difference if it is a famous or imaginary person featuring in the fantasy rather than somebody in real life?

 

Is it cheating to fantasise during sex?

[Wiseman2]

No. Why do you ask?

Is it cheating to fantasise during sex?

[j.man]

It's not cheating. I've done it both during masturbation and sex. When I'm masturbating, I almost exclusively think of other women. It's rare to during sex but I reserve the right.

[ThatwasThen]

If it is, Josh Donaldson of the Toronto Blue Jays and I have been having an affair for sometime now.

[Blue Ridge]

I would go as far as to say that flirting with a real woman is closer to cheating than masturbating and thinking of one.

[moodindigo91]

Definitely not. Humans are not really meant to be monogamous, we CHOSE to be.

 

Therefore, you may love your partner very much, and even enjoy your sex life very much, but that doesn't mean you won't catch yourself fantasizing about someone else sometimes. It happens. You'll naturally find other people attractive. It's not cheating unless you act on it.

[gp11a]

No - I do not think it is cheating. The same way I do not feel watching porn is cheating.

[Hermes]

Aahh the number of men who don't know the mortal danger they are in as they parade through the corridors of my mind. LMAO.

[j.man]

Aahh the number of men who don't know the mortal danger they are in as they parade through the corridors of my mind. LMAO.

You've got my attention.

[Levella]

No, it's not cheating.

[thornz]

You all still wouldn't consider it cheating, even if it is somebody in real life??? And you wouldn't be concerned if your partner was fantasising about something/someone else whilst you were actually having sex?

 

I'm actually surprised at the unanimous responses, I expected a mixed bag!

[Blue Ridge]

Even if it's somebody in real life.

[ThatwasThen]

You all still wouldn't consider it cheating, even if it is somebody in real life??? And you wouldn't be concerned if your partner was fantasising about something/someone else whilst you were actually having sex?

No and no and again, no!

 

I'm actually surprised at the unanimous responses, I expected a mixed bag!

Why? Do you think it's cheating and if you do, why do you?

[HeartGoesOn]

Please be aware that I have first dibs on Robert Downey Jr.

 

 

[thornz]

No. Why do you ask?

 

Well this may be TMI, I text my partner that I was horny, he responded to think of him whilst I masturbate.

 

Then came the internal dilemma of is it wrong of me to include others in my fantasy whilst masturbating. I was curious to hear opinions. I already have my own.

[thornz]

Well this may be TMI, I text my partner that I was horny, he responded to think of him whilst I masturbate.

 

Then came the internal dilemma of is it wrong of me to include others in my fantasy whilst masturbating. I was curious to hear opinions. I already have my own.

 

Still formulating my conclusions . .

[ThatwasThen]

Well this may be TMI, I text my partner that I was horny, he responded to think of him whilst I masturbate.

 

Then came the internal dilemma of is it wrong of me to include others in my fantasy whilst masturbating. I was curious to hear opinions. I already have my own.

Thinking of your own partner while masturbating is called Lack Of Imagination lol

[thornz]

I would go as far as to say that flirting with a real woman is closer to cheating than masturbating and thinking of one.

 

Food for thought. You may be right!

[thornz]

Aahh the number of men who don't know the mortal danger they are in as they parade through the corridors of my mind. LMAO.

 

This made me lol so hard haaa

[thornz]

No and no and again, no!

 

Why? Do you think it's cheating and if you do, why do you?

 

I don't think it's cheating to watch porn, to fantasise whilst masturbating (I actually think that's healthy to do so), even if it's somebody you briefly met in real life but I have never fantasised about somebody else during sex and have never fantasised about somebody I knew whilst masturbating when I have had a partner.

 

Then again I've not had a relationship hit the 4 year mark yet so maybe I haven't got bored enough haa.

 

To think about somebody instead of my partner when we're having sex seems really weird to me and would signify something isn't right with us. The thought that my partner is thinking of somebody else during sex who they know, or even worse, one of their/my friends would mortify me.

 

I would feel guilty if I were to think of somebody instead of my partner during sex. I think masturbating whilst thinking of a partner's friend or family member is just wrong, though as mentioned, not as bad as flirting with them.

 

I was just generally surprised that everybody gave the same response. Usually there are views from across the spectrum.

[thornz]

Thinking of your own partner while masturbating is called Lack Of Imagination lol

 

I don't really masturbate much when I have a partner. Dear Lord I'm boring haaa

[Blue Ridge]

It's just imagination. Much like admiring a person's figure or having a sexual thought, it isn't *real.* I don't really fantasize about someone else during sex, because I'm having the experience. But if I were to, I don't think I'd feel guilt about it. It's just your mind.

[Wiseman2]

It doesn't signify a problem it's just the mind and body doing what it's doing.

 

This is why there is a filter between the mouth and the mind 6621597]

To think about somebody instead of my partner when we're having sex seems really weird to me and would signify something isn't right with us.

[ThatwasThen]

I don't really masturbate much when I have a partner. Dear Lord I'm boring haaa

 

How long have you managed to stay in a relationship? What is the longest you've been in something long term? I didn't either when I was in the throes of new relationship energy but when you've been with somone for 1000 years like I have, once in a while you tend to just want the release without all the getting wrapped up in one another.

 

when we're having sex seems really weird to me and would signify something isn't right with us.

It seems really weird to me that you would think just because you're bringing in a visual in your mind of someone else would signify that there was something not right with the two of you.

 

Mental fantasy has nothing to do with your partner or how you feel about them or how much you love them (or not) it is about "you, yourself and I" and the privacy of your own mind. It doesn't mean you're taking away anything from your partner or the relationship in general. It certainly doesn't mean there is something wrong... unless of course there actually is which would have nothing to do with your "me myself and I" time.

[j.man]

My girlfriend has a higher sex drive than I do. There have been times I wasn't feeling it, but I knew she'd had a very frustrating week. That's when my mind enters a deep forest where I've been captured by [at least] two dozen busty red headed amazons.

 

Everyone wins.