Do all men in relationships want to cheat?

[muffinsnchips]

My friend and I have 2 different views on this. I think not all men think about and want to cheat but she thinks that no matter what the situation and no matter how much they love their spouse, men always want to cheat... is she right? My dad literally told my mum he cheated on her several times throughout their 20 year marriage. Any opinions are greatly appreciated

[Blue Ridge]

I can only speak for myself, but I have no desire whatsoever to cheat on my girlfriend. Now, "Do all men find other women sexually attractive?" would have a different answer. But it's easy not to act on that.

[Heather Dawn]

Your dad sounds like a prize.

[wildgeechi]

When I'm in love with a woman, I have zero desire to cheat. I can find another woman physically attractive, but there isn't even a hint of desire to speak/date/sleep with them.

 

Also, I've never cheated on anyone.

[Seraphim]

The answer is , no.

 

Do all women get pregnant to snag a guy?

[Seraphim]

Lots of cheating women in this world too .

[LightWave93]

I have never once wanted to cheat on any of my partners.

At one point in my long-term relationship I had a girl come on to me and I'm pretty sure I could have cheated if I wanted to. I didn't. I have self-control, respect for myself and partner, and it's just not right.

 

It's ludicrous to think that all men want to cheat. Your father however is a very bad example.

[Ms Darcy]

WANT to cheat? They do cheat.

 

It's like a part-time job for them.

[DancingFool]

Well....all those men can't cheat by themselves so that can only mean that all women also cheat.....

[dave_1966]

If this was about women, this thread would be closed as sexist.

[gebaird]

Any time a sentence begins with "all" or "always" or "never," it is immediately suspect. All it takes is one person one time to disprove the statement. Some men cheat, some women do too. But all? Ridiculous. Even saying "most" is a stretch, in my opinion. Your friend has chosen to see the world a certain way. You see it another. But the world is what it is regardless of the perspective from which it is viewed. I've been married 20 years and never cheated or wanted to. I think all of us are searching for love and we feel it in different ways. For me, it's best when it's based on trust and truth. For others, maybe one person isn't enough to satisfy the yearnings they carry inside them.

[gp11a]

WANT to cheat? They do cheat.

 

It's like a part-time job for them.

 

LOL. Nice, Mrs. Darcy!

 

I agree with LightWave93. All about self-control. It's fine to find people attractive... just respect the relationship or do the person a favor and break up to go after whatever you want.

 

Just like you should trust your partner around attractive people and not be jealous/nervous, they should be able to tell you "trust me, I can handle those things if someone is hitting on me!".

 

Do you have trust issues with men because of your dad?

[Ms Darcy]

Do you have trust issues with men because of your dad?

 

Exactly. That's the core issue here.

[Moontiger]

I think your friend is jaded. I've never been cheated on. And I have male friends who are staunchly against cheating.

[ParisPaulette]

Not any more than all women are looking to gold dig off of some guy or that being a doormat will get you rewarded with people treating you like kings and queens.

 

Sigh, another one of those "the opposite sex is soooooo terrible." Not true at all. People can be terrible or good or a mixture of a variety of both or nothing at all. It's not all exclusive to one gender or the other. One thing about humanity, you cannot ever say we all have X Y and Z period. But it's easier to blame others than maybe learning how to spot red flag behaviors and just not get involved with the person one can see has issues from 2,000 miles away through a blizzard. (Seriously, if I see one more post about "Well, he/she had this red flag and that one and that one too and now I'm just astonished they're mistreating/cheating/being abusive to me I am going to pound my head on the desk.)

 

And this is why we can't have nice things.

[Blue Ridge]

(Seriously, if I see one more post about "Well, he/she had this red flag and that one and that one too and now I'm just astonished they're mistreating/cheating/being abusive to me I am going to pound my head on the desk.)

 

And this is why we can't have nice things.

Ha! That and, "Our relationship was awful... how do I get them back?"

[Matt3939]

Absolutely not if I'm with someone I'm with them. Doesn't make much sense to put your health or your partners health or the relationship in jeopardy.

[Wiseman2]

One of my favorites also.

Ha! That and, "Our relationship was awful... how do I get them back?"

[LadyRayne]

There are 6 billion people on this planet and half of them male... I don't think you can say 3 billion males have the same feelings, thoughts, ideas, desires we are not cookie cut robots. ALl men don't want to cheat any more than ALl women want to have babies and wear pink.

 

Your friend has just probably been hurt too many times or needs to raise her standards when it comes to choosing a partner.

 

Both my two previous serious relations (a 17 year marriage and a 1 year bf) cheated doesn't mean I'm going to give up on men.

 

The majority of people (men/women straight/gay) can appreciated the attractiveness of others and not ALL of them have so little self control as cheaters and players

[greta96]

To put it more realistically, I don't doubt a lot of men (and I'm only talking about men because this was your question, I don't mean to generalize!) entertain the idea of cheating at least once in their lives, and fantasize about having sex with certain women that cross their paths. Now do they all end up cheating? Nah....only a certain type will. The rest will keep it as a fantasy.

[Wiseman2]

Everybody looks but not everybody touches. Just like people don't shoplift just because they see something they like. Cheating is a problem with their moral compass, not their eyes.

[muffinsnchips]

I know woman cheat as well. The only female who I know the at has not been faithful to her husband cheated because of emotional neglect and her hubby was a terrible drunk who treated her in a disgusting manner. I know it's no excuse and cheating is wrong but apart from her I only know men (a lot of men) who have cheated just because the opportunity came up. Or theh thought they could get away with it. I'm sure there are women out there who cheat because they can but in my personal experience men seem to do it a lot more often so that's why this is about men and not women.

[Wiseman2]

Get help for your insecurities regarding your partner. Installing spy cams to see if he's watching porn, checking for semen after sex to see if he is 'lying', where does it end?

I only know men (a lot of men) who have cheated just because the opportunity came up.

[muffinsnchips]

I don't think men are terrible and I'm not saying they are all cheaters I'm just asking peoples opinions. I have had men cheat on me and I've had men be faithful. This isn't an attack on the male population.. this is really just a conversation with a friend I wouldn't have posted but then my dad came clean and ruined everything. He always seemed like a devoted loving husband but hes not and after he broke my mums heart I guess I needed to get my friends point of view out of my head so I came here and I'm glad I did thank you to everyone who replied

[DancingFool]

I know woman cheat as well. The only female who I know the at has not been faithful to her husband cheated because of emotional neglect and her hubby was a terrible drunk who treated her in a disgusting manner. I know it's no excuse and cheating is wrong but apart from her I only know men (a lot of men) who have cheated just because the opportunity came up. Or theh thought they could get away with it. I'm sure there are women out there who cheat because they can but in my personal experience men seem to do it a lot more often so that's why this is about men and not women.

 

wait wait wait.....who are those men cheating with? Not women? Also, bs on the opportunity just came up. Doesn't work like that, sorry. Cheating is about core character and values it is not about opportunity or gender.