Cthun Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 So, as the title says; she texed me today. She broke up with me around 4 months ago; leaving me completely and utterly devastated, It still pains me everyday. So, I decided some weeks ago that I wanted to move on, that I wanted to heal, I deleted her phone number from my phone, all images I had of her and that we had, and I unfollowed her from all social media. It is still very hard for me to move on and heal; people online make it sound so easy. Anyways, today she contacted me, I dont know if I should reply or just dont answer. I don't feel ready, I dont want to get hurt. What are your thoughs on what I should do? ps. sorry for bad english. Link to comment
nuttybuddy Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 What did she say? What did she want? Link to comment
Cthun Posted August 10, 2016 Author Share Posted August 10, 2016 She said - How was your day at first semester? - Dudeeeeeeeeeee I know its simple, and I may be overeacting by making a post here. But she hurted me really really bad. Link to comment
nuttybuddy Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 First of all, she sounds immature. She should not be calling you Dude. That just downplays the relationship level to friendship. She's SEEKING friendship. But you should NOT give her friendship because you're not ready for that. I think exes can become friends only if both parties have moved on and can think of each other fondly. Obviously, she has moved on, but you have not yet completely moved on. Just tell her you can't give her the friendship. She should respect that. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 She's looking for some attention. Ignore, unless you want to put yourself through more pain. Does not sound like a reconciliation, and you will only help her tradition onto her next bf. Link to comment
Jibralta Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Don't reply. Resist. Resist. Link to comment
Hurt Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Try to live your life without her. You see, you can already live for 4 months without her. Link to comment
Silver star Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Delete her text and if possible change your phone number. You have to think of yourself at this point and you did all the right things by removing her number and photos. It will get better, honestly. Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Delete her text and if possible change your phone number. You have to think of yourself at this point and you did all the right things by removing her number and photos. It will get better, honestly. This ^^^. No, it's never easy, especially if you were the one who was dumped. But every time you have any contact with her, you will effectively pull the scab off your own healing. Don't be that guy! Link to comment
LightWave93 Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Don't reply, delete texts, block her number if possible. Ignore her. She's looking for attention. You need to heal. Link to comment
Lightjocj Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Hmm...im going to take a slighty different approach on this..im only speaking for myself, but yano i think we can all agree it sucks to get dumped, esp when your the dumpee, some of us beg and plead,some dont. Are egos and selfesteem take a hit. Im only guessing here but id assume the breakup left you dazed and confused. During my breakup i wanted validation, i wanted to know i met something...right now my ex holds all the cards, i cant make him want me, nor would i want him to be with me out of pity, it has to be his own free will. With that being said i think alot of us wether we admitt it or not would love to dump the dumper. I think alot of us would like to get that ex text, that put us in an empowering position. I dont hate my ex by anymeans ( altho i have been feeling anger latly more) seems people say time lets you remember the good times..well as the dumpee im starting to remeber that it wasnt all good...over time i think the dumper though might remember the good times...this is assuming there was no abuse, or cheating ect. I dunno, at times i miss my ex, and at times im angry, at times im also content. I guess thats progress though. Its my mind finally starting to sort threw things and compartmentalize the breakup. If i was in your shoes getting a text from my ex would definitely cause some anxiety. However, at the same time id feel the tables have turned. All of a suden you want me now? My texts go ignored, you say no to friends and tell me to move on but now YOUR texting me? I dont know about the rest of you but id use that as a push forward. I wouldnt be a jerk about it, but still. Of corse i can say this now, but if i was in your shoes i dont know that i would want to rip my bandaid off just yet and talk to ex. You have come a long way. Dump the dumper and keep moving forward. Link to comment
Lucha Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Seriously don't reply. Been there multiple times. You answer and get your hopes up, she throws a little talk about being friends and then blatantly ignores whichever text is about your past relationship. Do not reply. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Sorry, that is so lame, not worthy of a response.She said - How was your day at first semester? - Dudeeeeeeeeeee Link to comment
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