Its over... all of the work... no results..

[anon56]

my girlfriend ended our relationship on march 23rd, of 2 years.. and now we are at august. I messed up by contacting her or letting her contact me once and then. I blocked her for 2 weeks at the beginning of july. Then i unblocked her, i told her i needed time to think. She was very upset and ended up expressing how she missed me and that she wanted me in her life. I thought it was very selfish of her to want that and not want a relationship, so again. i stood my decision on not being friends ever.

 

 

So, that was on july 23-25th all of that conversation of her letting me know how she felt and i also expressed how i felt about the situation and that i didnt want to play this pull and push game anymore. i told her i have much going on in my life to worry about this, and thats why i needed to block you, i dont have time to think about you when im studying for exams etc. She responded very upset on why she kept asking why she was still blocked on facebook if i had unblocked her on whatsapp.She said when i blocked her, she knew it was the last time she would put up with me being proud, and that was the final thing i had to do.

 

She made a new facebook acc a false one and added me as a guy, i declined the invitation and it was very obvious it was her she added a lot of my friends which i blocked my friends listing for public.... we havent talked since july 25th and today is august 8th... i feel much distance, i have the urge to talk to her recently but im holding back, because i am working on myself and i really do want another chance with her.

 

I realized i was the one who messed up by being clingy and giving her everything and not letting her be responsible for her own life, and centering her in my life and goals. So now, i made a lot of progress in getting fit on vacations, i look a lot buffer than when i was dating her, i started going to the gym, and recently started classes again in medschol.

 

 

We both go to the same medschool, i had to check her schedule because i was curious and none of our clases interact to where we can actually see each other on the halls. How do i win her back? All of this silence is just making us grow more and more distant towards the opportunity for reconiciliation, thats what i think.

 

 

Im not emotioanlly attached or feel the same as how i felt when we recently broke up or when we were in a relationship, but i still care about this person. Last contact was at night she told me she burned herself and showed me a picture and i responded briefly with apply x and x, i hope you get better and also spend your vacations how you wished.

 

 

We havent spoken since then and its killing me, i am dating other people but its not the same..

[Hurt]

She is not that into you. And you know it. After spending so much time pleasing her these few years, it is time for you to start pleasing yourself

[carmen1131]

You see, they come back once you stop trying and work on yourself. Stop thinking 'how do i win her back' and more 'how do i make myself happy again?' i know it sounds cheesy, but my ex lost it when she saw me happy lmao

[anon56]

I guess ill try to forget about her for a while then, if thats whats going to bring her back.

[Blue Ridge]

It's what's going to bring YOU back! And that's way more important than a failed relationship. Good luck, brother. I know it hurts, I've been there. But you have to move on. It took me nearly 8 years before I met someone so wonderful that I forgot all about my heartbreak. But now I have someone so much better that makes me so much happier that I feel insane for ever needing the ex back so badly. So will you, just hang in there and don't contact her or let her contact you.

[imagitized]

Hi anon56,

I'm in a very similar boat. Your story really triggered me. My boyfriend ended our relationship of 2 years 3 days before yours and I'm feeling the same way still. The silence is tough since at least for me, my mind jumps to what he must be thinking..if he's over me or forgotten about me already while I'm here missing him still....But I'm just trying to work on myself....And if he contacts me, then we can see where it goes. It doesn't make it any easier. For some reason, these past few days have just been tough again but the other posters are right--have to get yourself back. It's a process. We have to trust the process. If its meant to be, it'll happen..

 

A quote that helps me at times: "If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."

[anon56]

Hi anon56,

I'm in a very similar boat. Your story really triggered me. My boyfriend ended our relationship of 2 years 3 days before yours and I'm feeling the same way still. The silence is tough since at least for me, my mind jumps to what he must be thinking..if he's over me or forgotten about me already while I'm here missing him still....But I'm just trying to work on myself....And if he contacts me, then we can see where it goes. It doesn't make it any easier. For some reason, these past few days have just been tough again but the other posters are right--have to get yourself back. It's a process. We have to trust the process. If its meant to be, it'll happen..

 

A quote that helps me at times: "If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."

 

 

Hi, its been a month since we last talked, yesterday i broke Nc with a simple "heyy, how are you?" and she texted me all these long stories.. and i replied briefly to most of what she said.. Going back to lc to see if it leads anywhere. So far im not urged to contact her anymore or cling to any of her respones since the ball is on her court.

[Wiseman2]

What kind of long stories? just fa la la stuff or she misses you, etc?

Hi, its been a month since we last talked, yesterday i broke Nc with a simple "heyy, how are you?" and she texted me all these long stories.. and i replied briefly to most of what she said.

[anon56]

What kind of long stories? just fa la la stuff or she misses you, etc?

 

 

 

she was asking what classes i enrolled...how i was doing... she talked to me about encounters or things that happened during her day, and overall wouldnt shut up. So last night after talking for a while, i told her i had to go to bed because i had work tomorrow (in a nice way and since she was going to ruin everything by ruining the mistique). Today at morning she kept her replies short, and so did i. A hour ago, i invited her to get ice cream on thursday, to catch up. So.. lets see how things go.

 

 

 

Tldr. Yes falala stuff, and i took at as a "i missed you".

If this fails going back to LC, no loss. i dont have anything better in mind...? Do you?

[Wiseman2]

Hopefully this is not friendzone nonsense and she is interested in reconciling. Wouldn't it be torture to listen to all that if it's just fluff? Yeah meet up in person and feel things out, why not?

she talked to me about encounters or things that happened during her day, and overall wouldnt shut up. So.. lets see how things go.Yes falala stuff, and i took at as a "i missed you"

[Annon20]

You see, they come back once you stop trying and work on yourself. Stop thinking 'how do i win her back' and more 'how do i make myself happy again?' i know it sounds cheesy, but my ex lost it when she saw me happy lmao

 

This is what happened to me too.

 

You can always invite her for a quick coffee to clear the air?