deann123 Posted August 9, 2016 Share Posted August 9, 2016 I've been a relationship with this guy for 4 years there's tremendous communication gaps. HE BLAMES ME for the issue. I tried to explain to hI'm that it's not just me he plays a role. He get irritated and start to emotionally and physically detach himself and again blames me. I think its a form of emtionally abuse, but not certain. He also patronizes me and when I tell him he doing it it get worse he does hear me. Help need advice Link to comment
j.man Posted August 9, 2016 Share Posted August 9, 2016 Whoa now. Slow down with all those details, Hemingway! Can we start with what constitutes a tremendous communication gap in your mind? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted August 9, 2016 Share Posted August 9, 2016 What do mean by communication gaps? Periods of time going incommunicado? A text not returned asap? Is it an on/off relationship? Are you exclusive or is he seeing others during these episodes? Is that why he's so defensive? tremendous communication gaps. He get irritated and start to emotionally and physically detach himself and again blames me Link to comment
deann123 Posted August 10, 2016 Author Share Posted August 10, 2016 Whoa now. Slow down with all those details, Hemingway! Can we start with what constitutes a tremendous communication gap in your mind? Not understanding one another .what seems to me unnecessary bickery and finger pointing and then becomes patronizing me . i have realized that behavior triggers hurt inside me and i no longer want to communicate with him at the point,but it doesn't carry over the next day for me. For him it carries on for days, he doesn't speak to me or acknowledge me. Link to comment
deann123 Posted August 10, 2016 Author Share Posted August 10, 2016 What do mean by communication gaps? Periods of time going incommunicado? A text not returned asap? Is it an on/off relationship? Are you exclusive or is he seeing others during these episodes? Is that why he's so defensive? Periods will go by with little to none communication when there is conflict and I'm always blamed for being the ineffective communicator, I'm sure I play a role but it's not all me. But it's no me that shutdown. Yes I beleive we are exclusive. We live together now . No its not an on off thing but it seem like it at times. Link to comment
deann123 Posted August 10, 2016 Author Share Posted August 10, 2016 Not understanding one another .what seems to me unnecessary bickery and finger pointing and then becomes patronizing me . i have realized that behavior triggers hurt inside me and i no longer want to communicate with him at the point,but it doesn't carry over the next day for me. For him it carries on for days, he doesn't speak to me or acknowledge me. Thanks for responding Link to comment
lostlove76 Posted August 10, 2016 Share Posted August 10, 2016 Whoa now. Slow down with all those details, Hemingway! Can we start with what constitutes a tremendous communication gap in your mind? You're hilarious, I just have to say. I love all your posts! Link to comment
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