stuck whether she likes me or not

[mrmikeyjohnson]

ive been speaking to this girl for around 10 days or so now. at first i wasnt so sure about her , but now i feel i do like her. at the beginning of this period it seemed she was the one texting first, and i think on one occasion where i just left it she seemed upset by it. then i started talking properly to her, and we met up about 4 days ago and it was awkward at first and she was shy. i kept noticing when she went to stare at me she looked away quickly as soon as i caught her staring. a day later i met up with her with a few friends but couldnt really get to speak to her. we went for a walk and then another friend came down, and he seemed to be interfering with it all which annoyed me alot. he got upset then she went up to him to see if he was alright which is fair enough, and they phoned each other for a few hours after. she says she only likes me as a mate. also, around the first day of speaking she was saying how she loved me and everything, however she had been drinking and so had i . anyway, the night i was annoyed with it all i went home and got basically narrowing down to admitting i like her, so i did , then she says she doesnt like me in that way. over these days talking she has been flirty and complimenting until the point i told her i liked her. she still is a little, however just not as much. i met up with her yesterday with my friend and was awkward at first, but when we were alone she seemed talkative and smiley she did not seem put off by the situtation that was happening. i dont know whether she said this because shes friendzoned me, doesnt want to admit it or whether shes ready for something more than friends im just not sure. can anyone help? thanks

[Gary Snyder]

she says she only likes me as a mate.

 

then she says she doesnt like me in that way.

 

- This means you have been freindzoned. Don't let it get you down, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

[Wiseman2]

Agree, unfortunately it sounds like friendzone. But if you can enjoy her as a friend and it's not awkward then why not?

i dont know whether she said this because shes friendzoned me, doesnt want to admit it or whether shes ready for something more than friends im just not sure.

[mrmikeyjohnson]

- This means you have been freindzoned. Don't let it get you down, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

thanks gary but, you reckon if i keep at it you reckon it could develop into something more than friends?

[gp11a]

thanks gary but, you reckon if i keep at it you reckon it could develop into something more than friends?

 

it's possible, but I would not "keep at it" with the hopes of her changing her mind. plenty of other people out there and she has directly told you she does not think of you "in that way".

 

i'd just enjoy her friendship... if she changes her mind, that's on her to come back, since she knows she's told you that she just wants to be friends.