I think I catch him looking at me all the time, is he interested ?

[Anon18150]

Basically I'm a girl, I'm 21 and I'm so attracted to a guy I work with! He's gorgeous! How would I go about talking to him or getting his number etc ? I'd ask straight up but I'm unsure if he's interested, I mean, I ALWAYS catch him looking at me but we barely talk at all ever.

 

How would I know if he's interested ? I'd love to see him outside of work!

[Hollyj]

I would think that if he were interested that he would approach you. Why don't you start a convo, and see where it goes?

[Hollyj]

Perhaps, you should take a little break from dating. When did you end your last relationship with the other guy: 20+ years, your senior? I see that started, through an affair. Didn't you just break up with him?

 

I think you should address your previous relationship and choices (lying and affair) before going after someone else. Your choices and decision making are a bit skewed. It is good to be alone for awhile, and not so dependent on men.

[Wiseman2]

Start by having a conversation not diving in for a date. If the conversations go well and you determine he's available you could suggest coffee, however many people do not want to date coworkers, so don't be offended if he declines

attracted to a guy I work with! How would I go about talking to him or getting his number etc ? I'd ask straight up but I'm unsure if he's interested

[Hollyj]

You broke up with your bf, five days ago. UGH!!!!! And you're still in love with him - even though it is a horrible mismatch, and very dysfunctional.

 

Do you have issues with your dad?

 

Work on you!

[Wolfshook]

Just say hi when you pass him and do a little small talk.

[mylolita]

Hi Anon18150,

 

I've just read your question and the replies - I don't know anything about your previous history so I am coming to this question from a totally neutral standpoint here.

 

If you like a guy and your womanly intuition is telling you you think he may be interested, you might just be right. As others have suggested, strike up a conversation, find out or ask if he has a partner to make sure you're not stepping on someone else's toes, and then if all goes well throw some hints his way. If it's really not going anywhere after some flirting you could be bold and ask him for a coffee and see where things go from there.

 

Just be aware that you really really like this guy, as getting involved with co-workers is a risky and potentially awkward/messy business.

 

Best of luck,

 

Lo x

[Gary Snyder]

Just be warned that office romance can have pitfalls. If it does not workout, it's going to be beyond awkward working there. Don't poop where you eat.

 

That said, if you insist on going after him, I don't recommend asking for his number. Why risk rejection yourself when most guys will do it? Flirt - it all starts with "Hello". You could always wear a nice dress, drop something in front of him, bend over to pick it up, and put your butt in his face! Sometimes you have to wake 'em up!

[mylolita]

Just be warned that office romance can have pitfalls. If it does not workout, it's going to be beyond awkward working there. Don't poop where you eat.

 

That said, if you insist on going after him, I don't recommend asking for his number. Why risk rejection yourself when most guys will do it? Flirt - it all starts with "Hello". You could always wear a nice dress, drop something in front of him, bend over to pick it up, and put your butt in his face! Sometimes you have to wake 'em up!

 

Well Gary that'll definitely wake 'em up! I think I'll take that advice myself! Brilliant!