Still in love with him

[niceandslow]

I am not even sure where to begin. Long story short, I am in love with my on and off again ex. We were on and off for about a year. Stopped talking for about two months then got back in touch at the end of May. Since then, we talk reguarly and still go out from time to time. We both care about one another and the main reason nothing ever worked out was because my ex has committment issues.

 

I have been casually dating the last few months but I haven't really found anybody I have clicked with or who piques my interest. But the last few times I have gotten together with my ex, I can't help but feel something is still there.

 

We have had some more open talks since getting back in touch, and I feel we both better understand where the other is coming from. On one hand, I really want to see if we could make things work this time. But he still has committment issues. Plus, I don't want to risk losing him as a friend for good if things don't work out again. On the other hand, I struggle with suppressing my feelings. He found out I was dating again and admitted he was a bit jealous, and I straight up told him I loved him and wanted to be with him (with the help of some alcohol). He is very aware of how I feel for him.

 

So I don't know what to do. The easy answer is going to be don't go back with a guy who says he can't commit. I know that's what most people will say. But I love this guy. I feel like myself with him. I still get butterflies with him. I love how we can sit and talk forever and still can't run out of things to say. It sounds kinda cheesy but I never really knew what love felt like until I met him.

 

I kinda want to talk to him about where things stand but I am afraid of bringing it uo. I am not entirely sure what to do or what to even say to him.

[Wiseman2]

Do you mean date exclusively or talk about marriage?

The easy answer is going to be don't go back with a guy who says he can't commit.

[reinventmyself]

We have had some more open talks since getting back in touch, and I feel we both better understand where the other is coming from. On one hand, I really want to see if we could make things work this time. But he still has commitment issues.

 

I kinda want to talk to him about where things stand but I am afraid of bringing it uo. I am not entirely sure what to do or what to even say to him.

 

He admits he still has commitment issues and you admit you have deeper feelings for him - still.

 

I am not sure what else there is to talk about that hasn't already been covered previously.

 

If you continue to be his friend, you risk being stuck in friendzone.

If there is even the remotest chance he might change his mind, it's probably best to set yourself aside from being his easy access friend until which he might consider you to be more, if possible.

 

It really sounds like the same thing, different day. Nothing has changed.

 

Don't demote yourself to friend. You know you have different expectations.

[kamurj]

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