I broke up with my bf over 5 months and I went out with someone else and now he

[lordreyna]

Ok, I'll try to keep this short and precise as possible, first off I'm 25 years old and I'm still very young at heart and still stupid in life experiences. My ex bf and I were together for a year and a few months, initially I broke up with him because I was tired of being disrespected and disrespecting each other, and the entire time we were split up he begged me back but idk I just felt like I shouldn't because I figured things would be the same, but then a few weeks ago he somehow saw my car at a house that I shouldn't have been at (yes I went on a date with him) and I tried to play it off like it wasn't mine because in the past month I was debating on getting back with him, but once he saw that he was infuriated and has been giving me a lot of sh*t for it and says I cheated and I broke all the love he had left for me, but my thing is we've been broken up for 5 months and i don't even know what he's done in that time myself so he could be hiding whatever from me. If he did do something I wouldn't hold it against him because we were on a huge break there was a lot of time in between us, but now I know I want him back and I've been doing all I can to try and prove I'm all about him. It's usually not my character to do those things but before I met him I was single for 7 years and I just want to feel genuinely loved bc I've been cheated on every relationship. I feel like I didn't cheat but I do feel guilty as hell bc I honestly never thought I could hurt him so bad and I broke his heart and mine. I've written him letters so it's more personal, I've left him gifts and little surprises like that (which I did when we were together as well) it's just idk what else to do, I feel if I give him more space then it's the end for sure and I feel if I bug him too much he will be annoyed and reminded of the atrocity I committed. I don't have any close family or friends to talk to so I'm her asking you folks please help me? It's ok if your brutal with me I know I f*cked up and in the biggest way I just feel like I lost my best friend and we use to do everything together and I just want him back even if it's not right now what do I do because if I have my social medias open I'm cheating if I go somewhere by myself I'm cheating everything I do or say he goes right back to that day. I'm so sorry what do I do? I don't want to give up so easily.

And just to add since he's found out we've had sex at least more then a few times, so my head is so clouded with what to do.

[Wiseman2]

If he's your ex your car can be parked anywhere you wish. Why was he stalking you? It sounds like he just wants to own you and soon all that disrespect you broke up with him for has gotten even worse.

 

Has he always been controlling/abusive/possessive? Why did 5 mos elapse and only when he spotted your car, he was suddenly interested again?

he somehow saw my car at a house that I shouldn't have been at. says I cheated and I broke all the love he had left for me, but my thing is we've been broken up for 5 months.And just to add since he's found out we've had sex at least more then a few times, so my head is so clouded with what to do.

[Iggy5129]

What "atrocity" have you committed exactly? Going on a date 5 months after you broke up with someone for being disrespectful?

 

You're not even back together and this much drama is happening?? I would keep moving forward with the new guy.

 

Your ex sounds like he is out of touch with reality. You haven't cheated or done anything wrong. He's wrong. And you broke up for a reason. Keep it that way.

 

Why exactly do you want this back in your life (besides the tired old "I love him" excuse)??

[lordreyna]

I guess you're right it's just that freaking Pokemon go app somehow lead him to where I was at haha but thank u I don't feel I cheated and I think his family hates me anyway for breaking up with him so I guess I should move forward

[Clinton]

Hes an ex. You can have sex with the entire Dallas Cowboys football team and its still none of his business

[Wiseman2]

Really? So Pokemon made him stalk you? Wow that's a good one. Yeah, your family is right he's a jerk at best. Find a decent guy and dump block go no contact.

it's just that freaking Pokemon go app somehow lead him to where I was at

[lordreyna]

Pokemon go! I know right?! Like how has this game gone to that kind of lengths?? Lol yea I guess ur right bc if he really loved me none of the we did while we were separated shouldn't matter, it's just he says I was with him mortal enemy like I knew that... ? Lol

[Clinton]

Pokemon go! I know right?! Like how has this game gone to that kind of lengths?? Lol yea I guess ur right bc if he really loved me none of the we did while we were separated shouldn't matter, it's just he says I was with him mortal enemy like I knew that... ? Lol

 

Heres the thing. In an ideal world the fact that you slept with someone else wouldnt matter.

 

In the real world a lot of times it does. It doesnt make it right but thats the way it is.

[Gary Snyder]

This sounds like normal breakup drama, many go through it.

 

We call them breakups because they are broken.

[ParisPaulette]

I think anyone who breaks up with someone and yet feels they "own" said person enough to accuse them of it being an atrocity when the other person chooses to move on with their life and start dating others is someone who needs a swift boot to their backside.

 

Seriously, you need to stop all contact, tell your ex to get lost and it's none of his business what you do or did when you two were not a couple, and then block and delete him and move on.

 

P.S. BTW tell him to look up the word atrocity-mass genocide, murders, serial killers, THOSE are atrocities. Dating after you know, you're single, is NOT an atrocity.

 

P.P.S. It's time to ask yourself why you don't have enough respect for yourself that you didn't just tell him, "And this is why we're exes, goodbye period," when he said that to you. And now you're kind of doormatting and hoping he'll "forgive" you for a crime that doesn't exist except in his head.

[Wiseman2]

Even the Pokemon part?

This sounds like normal breakup drama, many go through it.

[RainyCoast]

now i'm curious to know how the pokemon app lead him to your car. does it give your info and location to other players or what?? omg please don't let the obsessive stalkerish folk from this section catch on

 

yeah look you can line up the entire town and literally blow them if you're not with him. but you can't end the drama if you talk to him about getting back together. drop this nut, Scrat from ice age needs one badly. [ATTACH=CONFIG]11116[/ATTACH]

[No1]

Okay.. here is the truth. Your X has issues. He is in denial. He hasnt accepted its over and is thinking that you are still with him. His ego is hurt and when he found out that you were with another guy? OMG how dare she. She is mine! You have ZERO fault, he is your X and that means you are free to date and have sex with anyone you want. (provided that you have a digitally signed concent form via email or text)

 

As far as the Pokeman app leading him to you.. You should be worried. This guy has probably been following you for months. I would also change all of your passwords because Im sure he has hacked into your social media accounts or email. He is lying saying it was an APP. Even if it was he knew the plate number of your car? Who checks that? A stalker.

 

Rather than feeling guilty, stand your ground, tell him that its over and do not entertain the thought of contacting him. Im going to tell you, if you do ever get back with this guy you are going to be on a very very very short leash and you wont be able to have any friends. He is going to guilt you and blame you for his jealous rage. But hey, If you like that and that floats your boat, then please.. call him. Otherwise, if you want to enjoy your life and have fun.. tell him good-bye

[jimthzz]

Check your car for a tracking device called a VAR. Not to be paranoid, but think of it as eliminating possible woerd stuff from yuor life.

 

Block him on social media too.

[lordreyna]

I think anyone who breaks up with someone and yet feels they "own" said person enough to accuse them of it being an atrocity when the other person chooses to move on with their life and start dating others is someone who needs a swift boot to their backside.

 

Seriously, you need to stop all contact, tell your ex to get lost and it's none of his business what you do or did when you two were not a couple, and then block and delete him and move on.

 

P.S. BTW tell him to look up the word atrocity-mass genocide, murders, serial killers, THOSE are atrocities. Dating after you know, you're single, is NOT an atrocity.

 

P.P.S. It's time to ask yourself why you don't have enough respect for yourself that you didn't just tell him, "And this is why we're exes, goodbye period," when he said that to you. And now you're kind of doormatting and hoping he'll "forgive" you for a crime that doesn't exist except in his head.

 

Ur absolutely right I need to have more self respect and know that I don't need a man when I have so much going on in my life that I'm raising the bar for myself thank u for ur brutal honest I needed to hear that

[lordreyna]

now i'm curious to know how the pokemon app lead him to your car. does it give your info and location to other players or what?? omg please don't let the obsessive stalkerish folk from this section catch on

 

yeah look you can line up the entire town and literally blow them if you're not with him. but you can't end the drama if you talk to him about getting back together. drop this nut, Scrat from ice age needs one badly. [ATTACH=CONFIG]11116[/ATTACH]

 

Idk but somehow he said he found my player (I do play not going to lie) and he took a pic of my car and everything it was a strange moment for me but I'm going to try and be strong and drop him like everyone is saying bc obviously y'all see something I don't

[lordreyna]

Okay.. here is the truth. Your X has issues. He is in denial. He hasnt accepted its over and is thinking that you are still with him. His ego is hurt and when he found out that you were with another guy? OMG how dare she. She is mine! You have ZERO fault, he is your X and that means you are free to date and have sex with anyone you want. (provided that you have a digitally signed concent form via email or text)

 

As far as the Pokeman app leading him to you.. You should be worried. This guy has probably been following you for months. I would also change all of your passwords because Im sure he has hacked into your social media accounts or email. He is lying saying it was an APP. Even if it was he knew the plate number of your car? Who checks that? A stalker.

 

Rather than feeling guilty, stand your ground, tell him that its over and do not entertain the thought of contacting him. Im going to tell you, if you do ever get back with this guy you are going to be on a very very very short leash and you wont be able to have any friends. He is going to guilt you and blame you for his jealous rage. But hey, If you like that and that floats your boat, then please.. call him. Otherwise, if you want to enjoy your life and have fun.. tell him good-bye

 

Damn that's the best way anyone can put it I may have to reread ur comment over and over again just to get it thru my thick head but again thank u for the honesty and I'm just going to do me.