My girlfriend has a guy friend who she is very flirty with on social media

[Petermiller]

My girlfriend has a guy friend who she claims is like a brother to her. She says they've known each other forever and she doesn't see him as a potential boyfriend at all.

However, they both comment under each others Instagram pictures a lot and most of the time its compliments about how beautiful or how cute they are. I saw the comments and got jealous and asked her what's up with that. She didn't get defensive at all, which calmed me down, and just said that the guy is like her brother and that there isn't anything about it except the fact that she thinks he's good looking which in her opinion doesn't mean anything. But when I mentioned that if I would comment like this under a girls picture it would mean that I would definitely try to get with her she replied: "If I wanted to get with him I would have. It's not hard at all. But I have more respect for myself than you seem to believe." These words really made worry a lot. What do you guys think? Should I be worried? Could she potentially be cheating on me? Or am I just paranoid?

[Clinton]

Trust or dont. No trust equals no relationship

[JeckyllNHyde]

Hard to say. They could just be boosting each others egos on social media. But if I had a boyfriend I'd set the boundry with my male friends that comments may not cross a line (out of respect for my partner). If the comments are just along the lines of calling each other cute or pretty, it sounds harmless.

[Wiseman2]

She gave you the right answer. You may want to get with chicks you comment on be she's not looking for that with this dude. Be more secure and less clingy, it's more attractive than monitoring her social media for every guy she comments on.

she replied: "If I wanted to get with him I would have. It's not hard at all. But I have more respect for myself than you seem to believe."

[Doc Blaze]

if the comments are like cute and beautiful, I don't think its an issue, I do the same to my female friends sometimes, if they are going to a special event and all dressed up, I will say like you look very pretty etc. nothing over the top.

 

 

I guess its up to you if you think its bad or not. I will tell you that if you keep bringing it up or accusing her, it wont matter what you think because she will get tired of it and push you away.

[zaahid]

i feel you being clingy

[j.man]

"[she] said that the guy is like her brother"

"If I wanted to get with him I would have. It's not hard at all."

 

Maybe my family is just a bit more traditional, but if my sister wanted to get with me, it wouldn't be some simple thing. Your girlfriend is full of **** and loves the attention. I can't say whether she'd cheat with him, but in your shoes I wouldnt say a word about it and leave her to find another woman who doesn't feel compelled to hit on friends. This is assuming this is some regular thing between them. I wouldn't care about one off occurrences.

[abitbroken]

I don't think you have anything to worry about. But if you start exhibiting jealous behavior, it could be a big problem. if she were saying this face to face to him, or talking on the phone constantly to him, i would be concerned and talk about boundaries, but people comment "gorgeous" 'cute" on social media and its meaningless - it is meant to boost confidence, show approval in a photo, etc. - thats all