I need advice

[rachaelh21]

Basically my ex boyfried broke up with me 2.5 months ago saying that he didn't feel the same way anymore. we had been together just shy of 2 years. He said it was living together that made him feel this way. I basically lived at his house 4 months after we moved in together and we moved in properly together about a year ago. He said it was to much for him and he just doesn't feel the same way anymore. When he broke up with me in May he said he'd felt this way for about 4/5 months.

 

Im personally beginning to think it's his physical attraction towards me and GIGS. I put on 1.5 stone in my third year of uni (which I have lost again now plus an extra half a stone) and he also seemed to have had attention from a couple of other girls 6 months prior to our break up. He has untagged all photos of me on fb which I think is due to his ego of wanting it to look like he hadn't been with me. But surely he must have been attracted to me at some point to get with me?? like yes, i put on weight but i've lost it now. He also deleted a profile picture of him and his girlfriend before me (who i must admit, not being big headed, was probably less attractive than me). I feel he wants to go and date other girls and see what he can get. There really was nothing wrong with our relationship, we were best friends aswell as lovers and didn't argue much at all.

 

Anyway, 2 weeks after we broke up we said we'd see how we feel in a couple of months as we would be moving out of our house then (Which is this weekend, he's been staying at a friends house since a week after we broke up) and he said the reason for him feeling this way was because of living together, so i said why don't we see how we feel in a couple of months when we're not living together and maybe try again then, in which he agreed and said yes but he can't promise anything.

 

Thing is, i still feel like he has feelings for me-he said he did when he broke up with me and i'm not sure there's a few things i've read between the lines and i just feel like he does.

 

Anyway, i did decide that i wouldn't contact him to meet up and talk about how we feel and that I'd let him be the one to do it. However i have immense feelings to call him and talk about it. I just want to know.

 

 

I really want him back, but everyone says the best way is to not contact them and to move on and then they may be attracted again and that talking about the relationship will only push them away further. I am trying to move on I'm just struggling this week.

 

Advice please.

[Quidam]

If he still has feeling or if those feeling come back hes will contact you. If not then you have your answer.

 

In the meantime go full no contact stop focusing on an individual thats actually no longer in ur life. You are a one man show with the sole purpose of being happy, you and no one else.

 

Improve yourself, occupy yourself and behave with the self respect you deserve:

 

Not chasing or begging and lower yourself to begging for one's attention

[Clinton]

Its not GIGS or any other syndromeyou can name. The relationshipsimply ran its course and is done.

 

The whole lets see how we feel in a couple of months is aimply a dumper trying to let the dumpee down easy.

[Wiseman2]

This is about incompatibility living together, too much too soon. Not about attraction, looks or weight.

we moved in properly together about a year ago. He said it was to much for him and he just doesn't feel the same way anymore. When he broke up with me in May he said he'd felt this way for about 4/5 months. he's been staying at a friends house since a week after we broke up

Same guy?

[rachaelh21]

yeah same guy!