What do I do? Help

[JeckyllNHyde]

Met a guy thru mutual friends who's 5 years younger to me. We ended up going on holiday together with the friends and hit it off. Even kissed.

 

While on vacation at one point he said he thinks he really likes me. My first reaction was to say ... "oh but our age difference." I'm kicking myself now for saying that! He did say it doesn't matter and is just a number.

 

We stayed in contact via text for 2 weeks after parting ways.

Then he returned home. He still was quite nice and mentioned he was disappointed we didn't get to spend more time together alone.

But now I haven't heard from him in 4 days. I also backed off as I was beginning to feel maybe I'm coming off too eager.

 

I'd love to pick up the phone and call him but seeing as he hasn't made an attempt to contact me, I'm afraid to push him away or come on too strong. Or even kill his interest with too much back and forth texting.

Since we parted he hasn't mentioned concrete plans for us meeting again. Mind you, we live very far apart in different continents.

 

I'm so disappointed and a bit heartbroken that he just isn't into me or he lost interest after returning home. I'm still hoping that I'm wrong though.

 

Any advice?

[Wiseman2]

It sounds more like an enjoyable vacation fling, no? Why embark on a relationship with someone 'continents apart'?

We ended up going on holiday together with the friends and hit it off.

Since we parted he hasn't mentioned concrete plans for us meeting again. Mind you, we live very far apart in different continents.

[Clinton]

A couple of things. First off it's only 5 years not 25. Unless you're 22 and he's 17 it wouldn't matter.

 

Second, is this a long distance relationship? I can't tell from what you've written. If this can only be a long distance thing I'd pass.

 

Lastly, if you are in the same town and he had expressed interest, call him as you were the one putting on the brakes. What have you got to lose?

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm sorry, but my guess is, it's the "distance" that's holding him back. Was that issue brought up when you were together?

 

BTW, I haven't seen you here in ages...Welcome back!

[JeckyllNHyde]

It sounds more like an enjoyable vacation fling, no? Why embark on a relationship with someone 'continents apart'?

I know it would be harder but I don't usually feel a connection to most guys I meet. This time I did.

 

A couple of things. First off it's only 5 years not 25. Unless you're 22 and he's 17 it wouldn't matter.

 

Second, is this a long distance relationship? I can't tell from what you've written. If this can only be a long distance thing I'd pass.

 

Lastly, if you are in the same town and he had expressed interest, call him as you were the one putting on the brakes. What have you got to lose?

 

I'm 30 and he's 25.

Sorry for not being more specific. It's not a LDR. We never defined it. We just left each other with the agreement to stay in touch and meet again in the near future. Or go on another holiday together alone. We left it casual.

 

We both travel quite a bit so if we really want to make it happen, it will. But I'm just not clear on where he stands now (my gut tells me his lack of contacting me is not a good sign- I could be wrong).

 

If we did get to know each other better and feelings are mutual I'd willingly move.

 

He's back in his home country. The only way we could communicate for now is by phone/text/Skype but he hasn't made any move to go beyond texting.

[JeckyllNHyde]

I'm sorry, but my guess is, it's the "distance" that's holding him back. Was that issue brought up when you were together?

 

BTW, I haven't seen you here in ages...Welcome back!

 

Thank you for the welcome!

We didn't bring up relationship commitment. He did ask if I'm looking to get married soon and was trying to figure out where I'm at in life I think. But it was too soon for us to commit to a LDR as we had spent just a week together.

 

This is why I hoped we could continue getting to know each other thru calls or communication but I'm not so sure anymore and I'm afraid to scare him off by bringing it up.

[Clinton]

Ok so you are long distance. My advice, let it go. Sounds like a holiday fling