Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 My husband keeps using this scented handcream on weekends and when we go out. I have told him REPEATEDLY how nauseating I find it and it gives me headaches. I am extremely sensitive to scents . He keeps doing it and I just want to throat punch him . It is going in the garbage today. He has an incredible habit of ignoring what he doesn't want to hear . Rant over . Link to comment
Gloworm Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 Yeah im really fussy about any Scent that gives me a headache too. Its seems silly but it can be a dealbreaker. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Author Share Posted August 1, 2016 Yeah im really fussy about any Scent that gives me a headache too. Its seems silly but it can be a dealbreaker. Dating for sure I would be gone. But I just threw the crap away. He can buy something else. Link to comment
paxkramer Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 I don't blame you for being irritated. And A+ on the throat punch. Haha. That being said, has he told you what about this specific hand cream he likes? Maybe you could get him something that scratches that itch without it being nauseating for you. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Author Share Posted August 1, 2016 I don't blame you for being irritated. And A+ on the throat punch. Haha. That being said, has he told you what about this specific hand cream he likes? Maybe you could get him something that scratches that itch without it being nauseating for you. I think he just forgets. With his severe ADHD he is sometimes very forgetful. I don't think he does it on purpose. It was like for the 20 years would he hug me from behind and every time I told him not to do it and why not to do it. Finally one day I did something and he never did it again . He just gets really one minded and forgetful sometimes . I think we need to go pick out a hand cream together that we both like . Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 Get him a tube of Eucerin. Good stuff for very dry/cracked hands. And no scent. Just stock the house up with that and put them everywhere he may grab before he leaves the house or whatever. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Author Share Posted August 1, 2016 Get him a tube of Eucerin. Good stuff for very dry/cracked hands. And no scent. Just stock the house up with that and put them everywhere he may grab before he leaves the house or whatever. He has started a new fashion trend ... Lol. He now wears scarves and dressier shirt and scents. Apparently he wants to be European . It's just not the true him and quite frankly very annoying . Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 What kind of scent is this cream, anyway? Lol I can't imagine your husband wearing scarves. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Author Share Posted August 1, 2016 What kind of scent is this cream, anyway? Lol I can't imagine your husband wearing scarves. It is something from bath and Bodyworks or something ... White linen or something but it's truly horrid. No kidding my tough army boy wearing scarves ???!! So not him. And in this Podunk one horse town he gets many funny looks. Lol Link to comment
WithLove Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 I can't even go into Bath & Body Works or any other store like it. I get a headache every time. Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted August 1, 2016 Share Posted August 1, 2016 He's having a midlifer, lol. Well, if he won't give up his scents, my suggestion is, like you said, find one you both like. Or you can get some essential oil so you're not dealing with layers of scents, and add it to an unscented cream. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Author Share Posted August 1, 2016 He's having a midlifer, lol. Well, if he won't give up his scents, my suggestion is, like you said, find one you both like. Or you can get some essential oil so you're not dealing with layers of scents, and add it to an unscented cream. Omg!!! You nailed it!! Thank you!!!!!! We just need to pick out a scent both like . I think you are so right about the midlife crisis !!!!! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 1, 2016 Author Share Posted August 1, 2016 We bought a new hand cream. Link to comment
youareworthy Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 He has started a new fashion trend ... Lol. He now wears scarves and dressier shirt and scents. Apparently he wants to be European . It's just not the true him and quite frankly very annoying . Any chance he is interested in someone? I know that due to medications you mentioned his libido is nil, but when and from whom did he get some scented cream from Bath and Body Works? That's a woman's kind of store in general. And what is up with scarves? That is such a switch--it just sounds off somehow. And as I posted once before, some chemical in many scented products makes me have an anaphylactic reaction, so I would throw out, and replace, anything that was making me sick. Ugh! Youareworthy Link to comment
youareworthy Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 Hooray for the new cream! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 6, 2016 Author Share Posted August 6, 2016 Any chance he is interested in someone? I know that due to medications you mentioned his libido is nil, but when and from whom did he get some scented cream from Bath and Body Works? That's a woman's kind of store in general. And what is up with scarves? That is such a switch--it just sounds off somehow. And as I posted once before, some chemical in many scented products makes me have an anaphylactic reaction, so I would throw out, and replace, anything that was making me sick. Ugh! Youareworthy I don't think so. It would very very easily get back to me . Even when my son goes downtown five people text me to tell me they saw him. If they saw my husband with someone else that would get back to me faster than wildfire. And he's in the military too and we live in military housing if there was a rumour it would find me very quickly. He bought the cream with me in Bath and Bodyworks because that's where we buy our hand soaps. I mean it could be possible, nothing is impossible ,right. But I think it might be more like Cheet says says a midlife crisis thing. Because a while ago and he was really sad talking about looking older ( he is 47) . He was really sad about not being able to keep up with the 21-year-olds in sports . Sports was his life pretty much other than his work. So he has really been bemoaning the fact that he's getting older and is middle aged. His last deployment to they spent a lot of time in Europe. And he noticed that the Europeans are a lot better dressed than North Americans. Overall I think it's some kind of identity crisis as he goes into middle-age. I mean I guess it could be some woman but he knows that would get back to me really fast. And if it does he knows I am out of here. Period, no discusion I am gone. And legally he has an adult son but an adult son with a disability so he might be a paying. And he might be paying alimony as well until I could get another job. And there's no way in hell he could sneak away from that because he has a government job. He would also be paying me half his retirement and he knows that. I'm sure he doesn't want to lose half of a lifetime payment. Plus I would get half of what he has in RRSP's. And we both think we are at the best point in our marriage. Before he has really obsessive ways of dressing not just now. He has had OCD all his life . I swear he does some ASD traits but not enough to declare him autistic. But once he find something he likes he sticks to it like glue. Funny enough he will not wear this ensemble in front of his father. Because his dad would be calling him unpleasant names. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 6, 2016 Author Share Posted August 6, 2016 I mean I really have to look at it kind of factually. He's at work from seven in the morning till 330. We have supper and then and then he is volunteering at the Knights of Columbus or the Youth Centre where I work. Or he is volunteering with the good food box. Or volunteering doing jobs that men are more needed for at the centre where I work. Or he volunteers at the junior ranks ranks mess. He also has father and son days with our son in Toronto. We watch a bit of TV and then we fall asleep. Some weekends we are also volunteering as well. Or we are going back home to see our families. Like right now, this minute he's painting one of the offices in the centre where I work. Then by noon his sister will be here. Last weekend his parents were here . Next weekend we are all driving up to our families because my son is flying to Florida. The weekend after that he's going back to pick us up because we don't want to take two vehicles. In the winter we do snowblowing together as a part of his side business. And in the summer grass cutting although there has been no grass cut because we're now in level III drought. I don't know where he would fit a woman in there. Link to comment
youareworthy Posted August 7, 2016 Share Posted August 7, 2016 I am sure you are right! There is no time for anything else! And I know that you two are doing really well. I am very happy for you. He sounds like a great guy, giving his time and talents to others. I laughed when you mentioned that he won't dress all European around his dad. Yeah, parents have a way of seeing right through you, don't they? Kind of embarrassing how clearly they see all the foibles and phoniness. If you and he bought that While Linen scent together at some point, then he just got into it somehow. Glad that episode is over! Youareworthy Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 7, 2016 Author Share Posted August 7, 2016 I am sure you are right! There is no time for anything else! And I know that you two are doing really well. I am very happy for you. He sounds like a great guy, giving his time and talents to others. I laughed when you mentioned that he won't dress all European around his dad. Yeah, parents have a way of seeing right through you, don't they? Kind of embarrassing how clearly they see all the foibles and phoniness. If you and he bought that While Linen scent together at some point, then he just got into it somehow. Glad that episode is over! Youareworthy Well, his dad was born in 1932 and his grandfather was born in 1895. So you can kind of see where the attitudes of " manliness" come from. Link to comment
silver Posted August 9, 2016 Share Posted August 9, 2016 I think he just forgets. With his severe ADHD he is sometimes very forgetful. I don't think he does it on purpose. It was like for the 20 years would he hug me from behind and every time I told him not to do it and why not to do it. Finally one day I did something and he never did it again . He just gets really one minded and forgetful sometimes . I think we need to go pick out a hand cream together that we both like . Not ADHD. I'm sorry to tell you but this sounds like every guy on the planet. What guy cares about about a hand cream? I sure as hell dont. If it's in the bathroom he's going to use it. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted August 12, 2016 Author Share Posted August 12, 2016 Not ADHD. I'm sorry to tell you but this sounds like every guy on the planet. What guy cares about about a hand cream? I sure as hell dont. If it's in the bathroom he's going to use it. Well, it is not my hand cream and I won't use it. Lol. It gives me migraines in 30 seconds flat. He bought it specifically for him. But we bought a new one thankfully. Link to comment
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