Struggling to continue after break up

[Myron shredz]

Its been 2 months since she broke up with me and ive never experienced pain like it . Its all my own fault as i was being needy and insecure and i cant cope with the guilt and regret for acting that way . I love her so much and its all my fault . Ive been crying non stop ever since and struggling to function . Suicidal thoughts have been entering my head as the pains to much to bear . She was my first everything and now shes gone . The thought of her being intimate with other guys is killing me . I want this all to stop . Ive ruined everything and i dont have the strength to continue .

[Hollyj]

Have you considered therapy?

[William Walker]

Its been 2 months since she broke up with me and ive never experienced pain like it . Its all my own fault as i was being needy and insecure and i cant cope with the guilt and regret for acting that way . I love her so much and its all my fault . Ive been crying non stop ever since and struggling to function . Suicidal thoughts have been entering my head as the pains to much to bear . She was my first everything and now shes gone . The thought of her being intimate with other guys is killing me . I want this all to stop . Ive ruined everything and i dont have the strength to continue .

 

Where are your friends and family? How do you think she is going to feel if you kill yourself? If you love her, you won't do that. Ring her or speak to her, tell her how you are feeling. Work your way to being friends with her. Give it a month and you will feel better. The girl I like shagged her ex and told me about it, like every detail. So I know how you feel.

[Myron shredz]

Thanks for the messages back . I put my name forward for therapy the only thing is it can take up to 14 weeks before they can see me which is still a long time considering im really unstable.

[Myron shredz]

My family are supporting me at this tough time . Its because of them and specifically my mother that i haven't taken my own life yet . This girl was my life and i cant imagine my life without her . Shes made it clear that thats us done and i dont think i could remain friend's with her due to my intense feelings for her .

[Myron shredz]

Thanks William knowing theres people in the same situation makes the pain slightly more bearable

[coolgirl]

Hi, I myself having the same struggle myself. The guy I knew was my center of everything. Put in so much effort went into it so deep, can't stay friends with him because of my intense feeling for him. And I've only known him for a year and never met him in person so it was twice difficult for me do to the distance and note not in a different city another country. Because I suffer from depression and having these sudicial thoughts I actually had a nervous break down 8 weeks ago. Because everything for me was sprialing out of control for me that I texted him and told him leave me alone for a while.

 

I never told him what I suffer from, depression and struggling with bipolar disorder as soon as I told him, I thought everything would calm down and we would talk again after a couple of weeks, he dropped me like a cold turkey and he was my everything because I loved him so so much. But I never thought this was the way he treat me after a year. I got so angry with him and wrote an email to him and told him off. No, I didn't bad mouth him. Just how frustrated I was with him. He played with me and my emotions first then I thought why not give a taste of his own medicine. It wasn't about revenge it was more about playing with emotions. What I'm trying to say is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. As hard as it is, try to move on for your sake, because I'm sure you don't want to feel like this for the rest of your life.

 

Take time for yourself, do things you enjoy, hang out with friends. Keep yourself occupied somehow. How I do it I do ebay. And helps me take my mind off of things. I decided that if he ever comes back again i will deal with it then, but now is your time to help yourself and find your way back. I see 2 therapist actually that's how severe it is with me. Seek therapy if you have too. Have I thought about suicide I have those thoughts every day but won't let myself effect my cloud of judgement. I hope this helps. So I kinda know what your going through because I'm dealing with it myself. Take care of you for now.

[eg88]

It's only been 2 months. You're allowed to feel pain. You're allowed to "mourn" your loss. Breakups are like death. You lose the one you've spent all your time and energy on.

 

I thought the same thing a couple years ago when I had my heart broken. It took about 3 months for me to start feeling alive again. I sought help, a therapist. It helped tremendously. You have to reconnect with the things and/or people that made you happy before your ex. Once you feel well enough, and stable enough to go enjoy an hour or so (baby steps) of your time trying to enjoy yourself, it slowly gets better. I used to count the minutes that went by without thinking of my ex. Except even then I was technically thinking about him because I counted the minutes that went by. So going out and enjoying yourself won't be "fun" in the beginning. Then it'll hit you. Slowly the minutes you don't think about her turn to several minutes, turns to 1/2 hour, turns to hour, and eventually-down the road, you'll move on. She may still be on your mind-hopefully you 2 don't have any contact (that only makes it worse).

 

Needless to say, you will be okay. This too shall pass. Focus on you. And getting better. Feeling better. And get back to the basics.

 

Good luck in your journey of healing. I thought I was physically going to die of that heartbreak. And I'm alive.