Ballen2713 Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 I could really use some advice for how I feel right now Okay so my girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and 3 months and things between us are good except our sex life. We don't have sex at all. The last time we had sex was about 2 months ago and that was only because we went on our own mini vacation together with just the two us alone. Once we came home we never had sex after wards mainly because of our parents not allowing us to or giving us the opportunity to. Is their anyone who has parents that think or do exactly the same thing? If so did you ever get passed it? After the first month, I realized we wouldn't be having sex for a long time, so I began to just enjoy foreplay, but due to my crazy work schedule not aligning with hers we never have time even for that and when we do have time she gets tired out easily from doing one round of foreplay and wants to sleep where I am ready to go again. I try to respect her wishes and just play it off by masturbating that same night after I drop off but lately I just feel like my needs are not being fully satisfied since masturbating doesn't even help me conquer this feeling. What should I do? I feel bad asking her to do more foreplay because that means she's only doing it because I asked her to and I don't want to seem needy. Is there anything I can do, that doesn't involve me masturbating all the time? I do run every now and again but I still yearn for her touch more and more. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 You are 22 so how old is she? Why are you living at home at 22? I dont think there's that many parents out there who are going to be too happy about their kid having sex in their home. It's their house so their rules. When you have your own place you can do what you want when you want. If you want to have sex with your gf that much, get your own place, or save your money for a hotel room once in a while. Link to comment
Ballen2713 Posted July 31, 2016 Author Share Posted July 31, 2016 Well I stay at home to save money lol, i'm not trying to move out and then have any money, plus i'm trying to save up for college and other stuff as well Link to comment
musicman777 Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 Well I stay at home to save money lol, i'm not trying to move out and then have any money, plus i'm trying to save up for college and other stuff as well I don't blame you at all for living at home and saving money. Too many people get in a big rush to move out of the house when they are not ready. As for your parents... that's a shame. If you're an adult, using protection, and you have a room of your own privately with a locked door and keep the noise down, they shouldn't care that you have sex with your girlfriend in your house. But I know, not all parents are open about their children's sexuality, even when they are adults. I for one would have an honest conversation with your girlfriend about this. If sex is that important to you, talk to her about it. I would make it clear you don't want to be with her JUST for sex, but that is important, and that you don't think you two do it enough. I agree with Melan; can't you get a hotel room once in a while? I would ask you girlfriend if she would be open to this; I would offer every couple weeks or at least once a month. Offer to get a room somewhere, spend the whole day together, just the two of you, you will pamper her, get her anything she wants. No work, no worries, no parents. If you made a day for her, set the tone, let her relax, didn't have your parents around, she would probably be more into having sex with you. Link to comment
Knot2loud Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 Your frustration is understandable. However, if you want to live a free life then you need to get your own place. Also, maybe your GF doesn't want to get pregnant (unless you or her are doing/using something to prevent pregnancy). At any rate... You need to make some choices. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted August 3, 2016 Share Posted August 3, 2016 Lots and lots of masturbation. That is how I cope without sex or intimacy. Link to comment
Ballen2713 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Share Posted August 4, 2016 Yeah I know, we both want to save up for a decent sized town house instead of just getting an apartment, and we are being safe, we use condoms and I make sure I pull out right before haha trust me Link to comment
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