My mother is teaching me to be selfish? My family is smothering me.

[gabbycruz9]

My mother has always told me that I was bratty and selfish. I live under her house and I am sixteen. She has always hated my boyfriend of five years, which is why we hid it from her for three years because she has always influenced me to break up with him.

 

It’s been a year now that my parents know and we broke up. I own five bunnies and one of them needs to be neutered. My mother suggested that I do some “please??” techniques on how to get my boyfriend to neuter one of my bunnies which is fifty bucks.

 

My mother has told me she also taught this technique to her cousin who is now a gold digger.

 

The next day I stormed into my mother’s room because my boyfriend broke up with me because I can never go out and hang out with him to simple things like the movies and everytime he comes over he gets a complaint from me about how always late he is.

 

Whenever he is late my parents critisize him and say that he doesn’t love me because he is always late. I was very upset and yelled at him.

 

Anyways everytime I ask my mother to go to the movies she has said no five times. I ask the reason why and she simply won’t give me one.

 

I’m sick of her allowing me to ‘use’ him to take me to restaurants so I could bring home food to them. I’m also sick of her not lettting me out when I am sixteen years old and I’m old enough to go on dates. Am I being bratty? Am I being selfish as she said?

 

My father hates my boyfriend because he doesn't want to come over? BUT he has ten times!?

 

Why are my parents being like this!? We always go on family vacations and we have family days and I feel as if they are smothering me to be with them. I hate them and I'm sick of them. I can't go out with my friends and I'm stuck with them it sucks. No matter how much I show my dislike they want to bring me everywhere to groceries. If I get my drivers license will they leave me alone!? Don't get me wrong I'm a good daughter but now I'm sick of it.

[ThatwasThen]

You were 11 when you first started dating him? How old is he?

[greta96]

I think they just don't like the idea of a boyfriend. You are much too young for this, and when you started "dating" you were basically a little child. No parents in their right minds would be thrilled with this. Also, I don't really understand your post - you say you broke up, but then you say they are making you 'use' him for money and are upset he's not going to visit! Which one is it? And yes, how old is he that he has his own money?

[gabbycruz9]

I think they just don't like the idea of a boyfriend. You are much too young for this, and when you started "dating" you were basically a little child. No parents in their right minds would be thrilled with this. Also, I don't really understand your post - you say you broke up, but then you say they are making you 'use' him for money and are upset he's not going to visit! Which one is it? And yes, how old is he that he has his own money?

 

I understand that they were upset when I was 12 when I was dating him. However right now he is seventeen and I am sixteen. He's turning eighteen soon however, so he has been always older than me. He has a job at a grocery store and he's currently in college. When we were in a relationship and my parents knew, they made me pressure him to take me out so I could bring home food, or make him pay for whatever I need. It's exhausting. I really want to get my drivers license soon and a job because I quickly want to move out however I'm so young. And we also did break up until things get better between me and my parents however it's been five years I've been dating him, I'm sick of my parents disapproving this. I make him visit the house, give my parents gifts just to make them like him however they still say bad stuff about him. They're being immature and judgemental.

[gabbycruz9]

He is seventeen right now I'm sixteen.

[qwaspolk82]

My mother has always told me that I was bratty and selfish. I live under her house and I am sixteen. She has always hated my boyfriend of five years, which is why we hid it from her for three years because she has always influenced me to break up with him.

 

It’s been a year now that my parents know and we broke up. I own five bunnies and one of them needs to be neutered. My mother suggested that I do some “please??” techniques on how to get my boyfriend to neuter one of my bunnies which is fifty bucks.

 

My mother has told me she also taught this technique to her cousin who is now a gold digger.

 

The next day I stormed into my mother’s room because my boyfriend broke up with me because I can never go out and hang out with him to simple things like the movies and everytime he comes over he gets a complaint from me about how always late he is.

 

Whenever he is late my parents critisize him and say that he doesn’t love me because he is always late. I was very upset and yelled at him.

 

Anyways everytime I ask my mother to go to the movies she has said no five times. I ask the reason why and she simply won’t give me one.

 

I’m sick of her allowing me to ‘use’ him to take me to restaurants so I could bring home food to them. I’m also sick of her not lettting me out when I am sixteen years old and I’m old enough to go on dates. Am I being bratty? Am I being selfish as she said?

 

My father hates my boyfriend because he doesn't want to come over? BUT he has ten times!?

 

Why are my parents being like this!? We always go on family vacations and we have family days and I feel as if they are smothering me to be with them. I hate them and I'm sick of them. I can't go out with my friends and I'm stuck with them it sucks. No matter how much I show my dislike they want to bring me everywhere to groceries. If I get my drivers license will they leave me alone!? Don't get me wrong I'm a good daughter but now I'm sick of it.

 

You're teenager. As long as you are under the age of majority for your state your parents can tell you who to hang out with and not hang out with. They can tell you not to see your boyfriend. They can prohibit him from being at your house.

 

So are you saying your mom teaches you how to manipulate and use boys? That's crazy.

 

You know you don't have to use him right? Your parents aren't making you use him - YOU are using him. So stop using him. If you're broken up, stay broken up. If you like him, then don't use him.

 

Every teenager "hates" their parents as well. Suck it up - you have to deal with them until you're legally an adult.

[Wiseman2]

Sounds like you're mad at your bf for wanting to 'take a break' but blaming your mother instead.

The next day I stormed into my mother’s room because my boyfriend broke up with me because I can never go out and hang out with him to simple things like the movies and everytime he comes over he gets a complaint from me about how always late he is