toxigon Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 I know she broke up with me out of the blue and I can sense the presence of a guy, she is needy and I know she won't leave if she didn't have replacement ready, I just can feel it, I wanna move on so badly I wish to wake up without this pain, my heart is preventing me from moving on and I keep blaming my self and imagining her back in my arms, I just can't like women anymore but her, they all look incompatible, and I have the soulmate chaser effect, even no contact is a struggle, having suicidal thoughts but hope keeping me alive. I wanna move on for good, and I want her back but the old she, not the btch she became. Link to comment
limichelle Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 All you can do is treasure the good memories. Since she is no longer the person you desire, remind yourself of who she is now would you have stayed? My guess is probably not. So think about how much happier you really are without her. Think of it as a giant weight freeing you from the burden of who she is now. I know it's hard but you will never get the old her back. So at least keep fond of those good times. Being a soulmate chaser is not bad. You will find your true soulmate. Just don't give up! Lisa Link to comment
toxigon Posted July 30, 2016 Author Share Posted July 30, 2016 All you can do is treasure the good memories. Since she is no longer the person you desire, remind yourself of who she is now would you have stayed? My guess is probably not. So think about how much happier you really are without her. Think of it as a giant weight freeing you from the burden of who she is now. I know it's hard but you will never get the old her back. So at least keep fond of those good times. Being a soulmate chaser is not bad. You will find your true soulmate. Just don't give up! Lisa Thank you so much, I can't think of the good memories I get panic attacks from it, I don't wanna break no contact. I will treasure them when I hopefully move on, my life without her sucks, I don't remember how I lived before her. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 No. The pain you feel will pass. The pain you would have felt while with her would have continued, worsened, and become more self destructive than it already was. Heart and mind work in unison when : it is right, and you are authentic. Accept all the ways she wasn't who you had hoped. Accept that she did not fulfill your idea of who she was. Then let her, and your idea of her, go. It's okay. You are going to be okay. You got yourself this far on your own. You can move on. Do you know how in many things - driving, skateboarding, skiing, hitting a ball - how you tend to go in the same direction as where you are looking? That is true here too. Look forward, pick something in your future to envision. Walk toward it. One foot after the other, you will get closer and closer to your vision, and that is the path intended for you. Eyes forward. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 This is a good reason for no contact. At this point the 'old her' may have been an act, infatuation, whatever and this was the real her 6610878]the btch she became. Link to comment
toxigon Posted July 30, 2016 Author Share Posted July 30, 2016 Thank you guys for support, I think I had the wrong idea of love my whole life from watching movies, damn reality is harsh, or could be I didnt meet the one and she was just a lesson, this is crazy but I was crying loud at night cuz I don't deserve this, and out of nowhere a female voice in my head said "be strong for me" I started hearing damn voices and scared to go nuts, not sure if it's her voice or its the one, I have awakened spiritually from this break up and recently been predicting stuff and it scares the out of me. I open facebook app and thought that I will search for a random letter and if her letter S show in the begging it means she will be back, before I type Facebook crashes and opened, first letter on top was search, than below there was share, than a post that start with S. My mind is playing tricks on me, lol shoot me please straight to the back of my head and make it quick. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 Thank you guys for support, I think I had the wrong idea of love my whole life from watching movies, damn reality is harsh, or could be I didnt meet the one and she was just a lesson, this is crazy but I was crying loud at night cuz I don't deserve this, and out of nowhere a female voice in my head said "be strong for me" I started hearing damn voices and scared to go nuts, not sure if it's her voice or its the one, I have awakened spiritually from this break up and recently been predicting stuff and it scares the out of me. I open facebook app and thought that I will search for a random letter and if her letter S show in the begging it means she will be back, before I type Facebook crashes and opened, first letter on top was search, than below there was share, than a post that start with S. My mind is playing tricks on me, lol shoot me please straight to the back of my head and make it quick. Indeed you are learning many lessons. One lesson you are wrestling with is, "What does my future hold?" As you are a spiritual soul,I suggest: 1. You will know your future when it arrives, and you will be ready for it. Until then it is not meant to be known. 2. Your gifts will come to you when you are ready to receive them, and in fact this is always true, and so you are receiving gifts now that you may or may not be able to see. Seeing is a sign of readiness. Look around you. Identify what you are grateful for, whether it be things, health, thoughts. These are your gifts. Practice seeing your gifts, every day. This will help you be ready to receive. With faith as I've described, it will be easier to let go of your vision of the future. Only when you let it go can your future come to you. Link to comment
toxigon Posted July 30, 2016 Author Share Posted July 30, 2016 Indeed you are learning many lessons. One lesson you are wrestling with is, "What does my future hold?" As you are a spiritual soul,I suggest: 1. You will know your future when it arrives, and you will be ready for it. Until then it is not meant to be known. 2. Your gifts will come to you when you are ready to receive them, and in fact this is always true, and so you are receiving gifts now that you may or may not be able to see. Seeing is a sign of readiness. Look around you. Identify what you are grateful for, whether it be things, health, thoughts. These are your gifts. Practice seeing your gifts, every day. This will help you be ready to receive. With faith as I've described, it will be easier to let go of your vision of the future. Only when you let it go can your future come to you. Thank you so much, you are one of the gifts I can see around now, I can feel ur positive effect on me and ur nice words, and I can feel ur dedication to help unconditionally, I won't let u or myself down, I will be expecting whatever comes, and be thankful for good and bad, overall God will give me judging by my intentions, and I assure u my intentions are good. Link to comment
shamona Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 What happened for her to change so much? Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted July 30, 2016 Share Posted July 30, 2016 Thank you so much, you are one of the gifts I can see around now, I can feel ur positive effect on me and ur nice words, and I can feel ur dedication to help unconditionally, I won't let u or myself down, I will be expecting whatever comes, and be thankful for good and bad, overall God will give me judging by my intentions, and I assure u my intentions are good. Wow, thank you. We receive our gifts when we are ready, and we always are ready - but maybe our gifts look different than we expect. You are wise, and grateful, and human. And you made me feel good. Thank you. Link to comment
toxigon Posted July 30, 2016 Author Share Posted July 30, 2016 Wow, thank you. We receive our gifts when we are ready, and we always are ready - but maybe our gifts look different than we expect. You are wise, and grateful, and human. And you made me feel good. Thank you. This breakup made me be myself again, she missed out big-time, likewise u made my day and enlightened me to what I was blinded from. Tomorrow marks my 3 days of no contact after a month of begging and reasoning with a brick wall that have 0 feelings for me. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted July 31, 2016 Share Posted July 31, 2016 This breakup made me be myself again, she missed out big-time, likewise u made my day and enlightened me to what I was blinded from. Tomorrow marks my 3 days of no contact after a month of begging and reasoning with a brick wall that have 0 feelings for me. My two hardest break ups have proven to be among the most transformative gifts I received. The life I found afterwards- made myself find - is wholly different. Link to comment
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