I don't know how to feel

[rachelann16]

I don't know how to feel about this guy I have been talking to for a few months. Part of me feels like he likes me but part of me feels that he doesn't. His body language and body contact have me convinced that he likes me. I am concerned though because I am usually the one making plans. He usually sends the initial text asking what I am up to tonight or if I want to hangout but he won't make the plans. When we do end up hanging out he seems to have a good time. He has told me before that he likes me and likes being places where I am. We don't communicate much through text but I have gotten to know him pretty well when I am with him. I don't know if he wants me to reach out to him/make plans because it makes him feel good, comfortable with me, or if he is insecure. What should I do? How should I feel?

[ThatwasThen]

Next time he asks you "what are you up to" tell him "nothing, what did you have in mind for us to do?" Depending on his answer, you'll know what you should do with him.

[limichelle]

He could be just shy and liking you to take the initiative. There are guys that like straight forward girls.

 

I agree though just turn the tables when he asks what's going on.

 

Lisa

[gabbycruz9]

Next time he asks you "what are you up to" tell him "nothing, what did you have in mind for us to do?" Depending on his answer, you'll know what you should do with him.

I agree with ThatwasThen. If he in returns asks what you want to do then say that you're really interested in where he wants to go.

[Gary Snyder]

You just met so he is on his best behavior (Not very good, huh?). They come to you how they are.

 

He sounds like a lazy guy who will just take you for granted. You two should be headed into the honeymoon phase at this point..... instead, you are complaining. If you think you have problems now, just wait until you get to know him.

[Person1001]

I would er on the side of caution. There shouldn't be any doubt in the relationship, especially in the beginning stages. If he has lack of interest, when the honeymoon phase fades he could start pulling away, that will hurt you and leave you confused. See if he makes any effort if you don't, if not he prob is not interested. Trust your gut, its usually right.

[musicman777]

I don't know OP... I think if your gut says something is off about a guy, you should listen to it. You shouldn't be questioning the integrity and intentions of a guy who you think is into you. If you have to, that tells me this isn't right.

[Sportster2005]

I don't know how to feel about this guy I have been talking to for a few months. Part of me feels like he likes me but part of me feels that he doesn't. His body language and body contact have me convinced that he likes me. I am concerned though because I am usually the one making plans. He usually sends the initial text asking what I am up to tonight or if I want to hangout but he won't make the plans. When we do end up hanging out he seems to have a good time. He has told me before that he likes me and likes being places where I am. We don't communicate much through text but I have gotten to know him pretty well when I am with him. I don't know if he wants me to reach out to him/make plans because it makes him feel good, comfortable with me, or if he is insecure. What should I do? How should I feel?

 

You shouldn't be convinced because of body language and contact. Body language can be a guide, but in the absence of more direct interest I wouldn't be so sure of his attraction.

 

Usually when a man is interested in you, you'll know it. I find it interesting how many women in these threads are quick to excuse non-interest as shyness. Usually the most simple explanation, is the correct explanation.