sorrowman Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Dear All, I got this crush that is hindering my life. This new colleague just joined my company 1 month ago. Currently she is attached to my department for a few months. Once during lunch, she mentioned she was not feeling well. I casually asked if she wants medicine since I have it. I went google and research on my medicine because she was allergic to some medicine. I sent email to her say its fine and placed it on her desk. Wonder did I overdo it. Then there was once my colleague ask me to get some info from her. I was so scared going to ask her desk and ask. I have no choice but to go. Lucky I do not need to work with her a lot. When I see her in office I look flustered, or when she come near my desk my heart will beat very fast. I look shy to girls that I like. Although I tell myself so what if she knows, actually I am feeling scared in my heart. She is also my lunch group. The group range from 5 to 8 people. When I walk beside her I feel the awkwardness because I am someone that is not sociable. I am trying my best to avoid her during lunch. like not walking beside her. I don't know if my actions too obvious. Eating lunch is a stressful thing for me now. We are both married. I am feeling gulity towards my wife because I hate myself for feeling like that. I hope I can pass these tough period soon. Please help me Thank You Link to comment
j.man Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 You're a human being. You're allowed to have crushes. The only issue I have with your post is it sounds like you're giving out your prescription meds. Don't do that. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 It's ok to be attracted to people, but act professional.We are both married. I am feeling gulity towards my wife because I hate myself for feeling like that. Link to comment
AxlVega Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 It's only natural to feel attraction to other people. Just, you know, don't cheat on the missus. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 If you play with her and your wife finds out, your wife might divorce you and destroy your life. Maybe that will help! Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Age with jman, never ever share your medicin!!!! Other than that, i think a crush isn't worth putting your marriage and hers in jeopardy You can either feed a crush or let it fizzle out. Link to comment
Zaphod Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 What I always say is imagine her on her period, sitting there farting and munching her way through a box of quality street, and nagging you to do the dishes. Crush = over, hopefully. Crushes are usually when you're building up an imaginary image of the person in your mind. Chances are if you got to know her, you'd find she wasn't like you imagine at all. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Ahh yes. The My wife/my mistress optical illusion: ] Link to comment
Zaphod Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 Ahh yes. The My wife/my mistress optical illusion: ] Help. I can see the wife but not the mistress. Where is she? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 The chin is the nose, the ear is the eye, the necklace is the mouth.Help. I can see the wife but not the mistress. Where is she? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted July 25, 2016 Share Posted July 25, 2016 We are both married. I was with you until the sentence (above). You have too much to lose...don't ya think? Link to comment
sorrowman Posted July 26, 2016 Author Share Posted July 26, 2016 Thanks for the wonderful response. I felt better after letting out. I am just an average looking guy in this world. It is almost impossible to have a girl like me. I know is normal to have crush, but I am trying to stay professional but obsessing myself at work. I still have the young boy shyness where when i might blush when I talk to her. Question: Girls can you sense when a guy likes you? I was dumbfounded when she show me something on her mobile, despite knowing her in short time. I will try to be natural when i talk to her next time. It is dam hard but I hope I can do it. It is draining my energy at the moment. Link to comment
AxlVega Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 I am just an average looking guy in this world. It is almost impossible to have a girl like me. Aren't you married to one? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 We are both married. ^ THAT is all that is relevant in your entire post (imo). That is where your focus should be and don't lose that focus. Also, it sounds like your crush is more than that to you. Don't cross that line. It is almost impossible to have a girl like me. You said you are married. Obviously your wife liked you enough to marry you, right? Why are you looking for other girls to like you? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 Ask your wifeQuestion: Girls can you sense when a guy likes you? Link to comment
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