What should I do?

[ThatPerson]

I recently confessed my feelings for someone and she responded somewhat positively. I've felt this way for a long time, yet she's become a great friend to me and we both agree that we don't want to ruin our friendship. Some of the responses I got from her are, "I'm flattered" and "I haven't really thought about this." We're both in college and due to certain circumstances, I may or may not be around for a while to do anything. I'm stuck and a crossroads and I don't know where to go, should I try to be with her or should I back down and not potentially ruin the friendship?

[SooSad33]

She's flattered. Until or unless she starts showing potential interest in that area.. dont push it.

 

IF you dont want to ruin the friendship you have.. maybe shouldnt have gone there...?

And.. yes, good idea to consider your future in whether you'll actually be around.

[ThatPerson]

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. The only reason I told her how I felt is because I only wanted to get it off my chest and not go through the same ordeal of not saying anything. Last time something like this happened, I isolated myself from my friend group to not be around while being mopey and they thought there was a more serious problem going on.

[missmarple]

"I'm flattered" and "I haven't really thought about this." = I'm not interested in you romantically but I'm being polite because you're a nice guy.

If you want to keep the friendship, don't mention it again and start looking elsewhere.

[jujusamples]

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. The only reason I told her how I felt is because I only wanted to get it off my chest and not go through the same ordeal of not saying anything. Last time something like this happened, I isolated myself from my friend group to not be around while being mopey and they thought there was a more serious problem going on.

 

I think you should just leave it if you don't want to ruin the friendship with her. How long have you been friends with her? Ask yourself what's more important your friendship or a romantic relationship with her. Just note that if you get into a romantic relationship with her, you risk the chances of ever even being friends with her again.