Daily struggle after break-up. Help!

[WIPPY]

My partner of 3 years finished with me 7 months ago for reasons unknown. She was the most perfect, beautiful, ideal person I'd ever met in my life and I couldn't believe my luck when we first got together.

But 7 months on and I'm still consumed in grief every single day. I'm constantly thinking about her and what could've gone wrong. I spend most days doped up on sleeping tablets to escape the pain. I know that all I need is disctraction to stop me thinking about her but it's often very difficult to find.

I'm 47, I have a full time job working from home but have no friends or family and live in a remote area where not much happens.

I often think about ending my life as the pain is too unbearable to continue. I miss her SO much!!

I'm hoping someone may be able to offer advice or assistance as I really can't continue in this manner. Sometimes I just want someone to talk to about it. But I have nobody who will listen.

Thanks.

[SherrySher]

It is possible that you might be placing her on a higher pedestal due to your being so isolated and lonely. It would be good for you to somehow connect with others. It would help. You can also go for walks, I personally find that to be a relaxing experience. Doing things you enjoy, watching movies, listening to good music. Do you have any hobbies?

I hate to suggest dating sites as I personally am not a fan of them, however, it might help just to put yourself back out there and to talk with others if nothing else for now.

Are you going anywhere for vacation this summer? Going different places always open doors for new experiences.Are there any sort of clubs or meets ups you can attend in your area?

Other than that, just give yourself time. Heartache takes time to heal. It will fade. The loss of someone is difficult and can take time to overcome, but you can overcome it.

I wish I had more advice that this, but I too know how difficult it can be.

[polaris]

Well you said it yourself: you need distraction and you need someone to talk to about it. Distraction comes in many forms - for example, reading a good book can force you to focus on that and not the constant rumination about her - but people are the best distraction and I can see that you have none around at the moment, which will make it very hard to move on. I could say go and find some friends, join a group etc., and it's worth considering, but you'll probably tell me that you don't feel up to that or that there is no group available and no place to meet friends.

 

One thing you can definitely do, and should definitely do, is go to a counsellor. Apart from helping you to move on from this, they will provide a listening ear that you can talk to about this as much as you want. I think you'd feel a lot better if you did that; you clearly need to get this out somehow.

[Wiseman2]

What was the reason for the break up? Surely you weren't that clueless, right? Get to doctor to talk about the pill addiction and depression. Try to get out more rather than withdrawing/isolation and indulging this addiction.

My partner of 3 years finished with me 7 months ago for reasons unknown. I spend most days doped up on sleeping tablets to escape the pain. I'm 47, I have a full time job working from home but have no friends or family and live in a remote area