Rejected by a friend

[pinkbunni3xz]

Hi guys,

 

I'm writing to process the hard weekend I've had with someone I was interested in. Long story story, he's a guy that I've been spending a lot time with for the last 7 months with and I've become interested in I'm despite the the big age different between us (me 27 him 20). I've tried my best to suppress my own personal agenda and fight off my feelings because I know that we're at different paths in life. It's been so difficult to not have feelings for him because I see him 3-4X a week at school and then also we chat on this group chat or privately for until 1-2AM. I've told him before that I thought he was very attractive and I have a crush on him. He said he was appreciative but he did not reciprocate feelings in May. I was crushed but eventually I put my own personal feelings aside and still remained his friend because it would make it for everyone in the group we hung out with (no one knows). We carried on to be friends; he told me about girls he has crushes on and although it stings a bit, I was able to accept it.

 

In the month of July, I saw him almost everyday. The last 3 outings was slightly romantic feel to it. We walked around downtown arm in arm and those feelings for him sparked again. Few days ago we met up after work and walked around the beach. We got a little close and he revealed that he had feelings for me "more than friends" on a number of occasion we've hung out. He stated other nice things that he was attracted to me and enjoyed my company. We ended up making out. I was so high and excited because it was something I was dying to hear from this cute boy for 7 months. After the heated session, he told me at the end that he does not think we're able to make it long term because of our age gap. I was crushed and devastated. If I knew he felt that way, I would not have engaged with him physically. I'm angry and wonders why he even bothered to reveal those feelings. I feel so cheap and easy. I feel so invaluable that he was unwilling to even take the risk. He said that he "rather be friends forever, than have it ruin our relationship". (Which is BS because it simply means he's just not that into me).

 

I asked him for space because I need to just move on. I can't handle his indecisiveness. I'm torn because on one hand, I do value our friendship for the last 7 months and also really enjoy the company of the group we hang out with and don't want to make things awkward.

 

I understand time heals all wounds but right now it's painful and I can't even look at him in the eye. I'm heartbroken and felt so mislead. Maybe we could be friends one day if we both have relationships... I know I have to give up all hope that anything romantic will ever happen between us again. I have been through so much to settle for someone not crazy about me.

 

Thanks for reading.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like his feeling were consistent meaning being just friends but you both got caught up in a physical moment. Nothing to worry about it didn't go far, so just be friendly as before.

I've told him before that I thought he was very attractive and I have a crush on him. He said he was appreciative but he did not reciprocate feelings. After the heated session, he told me at the end that he does not think we're able to make it long term because of our age gap.