Why wait until i turn 18 to have sex??

[elmg]

I know that it might sound dumb to ask a question like that but hear me out. So, right now i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and we've been together for almost a year. We've been talking about taking the next step for a few months now, i'm on the pill and he has condoms, we know about any danger and i personally educated myself as much as possible on the matter so we're prepared, but everyone has been telling me to wait until i'm 18 and i don't understand why. They tell me that i could get pregnant, but since (as i said before) i'm on the pill and he has condoms the chances of that are pretty low plus i could still get pregnant if i have sex at 18 what's the difference? They also tell me that i could get an std which is unlikely since it's both our first times and we're going to use a condom. On top of that i really love him and even if we break up eventually, i'll still be ok with him being my first.He's the nicest guy he hasn't pressured me into anything, actually it was me who first brought the subject up, he's been really patient with me and i am certain i am ready and i really wanna do this, but everyone has been telling me to wait and i don't understand why it's such a big deal to wait for like 1,5 more years if i'm sure that now is a good time to do it.

[Wiseman2]

It sounds like you are physically well prepared but what about emotionally?

He's the nicest guy he hasn't pressured me into anything, actually it was me who first brought the subject up, he's been really patient with me and i am certain i am ready and i really wanna do this, but everyone has been telling me to wait and i don't understand why it's such a big deal to wait for like 1,5 more years if i'm sure that now is a good time to do it.

[elmg]

It sounds like you are physically well prepared but what about emotionally?

 

I think i am, but how do i know for sure?

[Capricorn3]

right now i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and we've been together for almost a year. We've been talking about taking the next step for a few months now, i'm on the pill and he has condoms, we know about any danger and i personally educated myself as much as possible on the matter so we're prepared, but everyone has been telling me to wait until i'm 18 and i don't understand why. They tell me that i could get pregnant, but since (as i said before) i'm on the pill and he has condoms the chances of that are pretty low plus i could still get pregnant if i have sex at 18 what's the difference?

 

i don't understand why it's such a big deal to wait for like 1,5 more years if i'm sure that now is a good time to do it.

 

Imagine this scenario: The Pill and condoms failed to work for whatever reason. Are you, at age 16, able to raise a child for the next 18 years? Can you provide for this child for the next 18 years? Do you have your own place to live, to raise this child? Have you got a job which brings in enough money to pay a mortgage, electricity, water, phone, groceries, insurance, car expenses and maintenance, baby clothes, equipment, medical needs, etc etc? Can you, honestly, handle all the responsibilities that come with having a baby? Honestly, you have absolutely no idea how tough it is raising a child. It is not a doll which you can cast aside when you are finished playing with it. This is a deal for life. There is a reason why children should not be doing adult things - they simply aren't responsible enough.

 

Leave adult thing to the adults. You have more than enough time to grow up and play house when you can deal with all that comes with being an adult.

 

That said, no doubt you'll do what you want to do, because you want to do it, right?

[melancholy123]

You are physically ready but there is not much chance you are emotionally or mentally ready. Capricorn3's post is excellent and tho you would take precautions against pregnancy, sh*t happens and you could end up pregnant. Your hormones and his are likely going nuts and you want to have sex to see what all the fuss is about. I understand that, I was 16 once too but waited til I was almost 18 before having sex. Not to insult you, but you two are just not mature enough for these adult situations.

[jonny15]

As long as you use protection, then it's ok. I would've loved to have had the opportunity at 16.