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About out 2-4 years ago I had a fake profile of a male. I was talking to a girl for a while and then got one of her friends number that's when it all started. We stared to text and text became good friends best friends and then we had even said to be together. At first I didn't think I would develop any feelings, and many many times I did things for her to leave because it wasn't right. As time went by we just got closer and closer to the point where not knowingly I had develop deep feelings for her but I felt so guilty for never wanting to FaceTime her when she asked for talking about future things when I knew I couldn't give her that (ex family). Just last year I told her the truth that I am a female and everything was real expect that I was not a guy. She understood wasn't mad and kept talking to me not in the way as it was before tho. At one point she added guys and was talking t them and that broke me I became jealous, sad and depressed I didn't and I don't want her with any guys. To make things shorter we made a deal I told her my feelings for her and she said that we can try something between to see how it goes and it has been so great everything is just right between us but now she doesn't know if she wants me in her life or not because it's confusing her mind. Btw she did now said that she does feel things for me. We don't know what to do cuz I don't want to let go and she doesn't either, we cry about it and we are just looking for people's opinion. Thank you

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It sounds like you were friend-zoned, rather than blocked. Do you think posing as a guy was confusing to her?

last year I told her the truth that I am a female and everything was real expect that I was not a guy. but now she doesn't know if she wants me in her life or not because it's confusing her mind
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I don't know what she says is that she's confused on how she feels towards the situation. I really didn't feel like I was friend zoned because she has expressed her feelings and we have gotten very deep with that and even physical. We really just wana know if it's better to stop talking or not

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No bc when I told her I asked her to not talk to me cuz I didn't deserve anything and she insisted on talking. Every time I say this is not good she brings up a deal for us to be something. I don't wana stop talking and neither does she but she just gets confused on how she's feeling now

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As myself. Since April it has been that way. I told her I couldn't be a friend to her bc I'm a very jealous person and she well she says she's confused on how to go on about this. The times that I have told her that this needs to stops she comes back with a deal for us to be in each other's life. By deal I mean like she doesn't talk to guys and so on. The way we text it's not like a friendship. We want advice and opinion on what is best to do

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No bc when I told her I asked her to not talk to me cuz I didn't deserve anything and she insisted on talking. Every time I say this is not good she brings up a deal for us to be something. I don't wana stop talking and neither does she but she just gets confused on how she's feeling now

It's rather martyr-ish to insist on someone to not talk to you because you don't deserve it and yet place all the responsibility on her to do the right thing.

 

If you truly believed it was wrong, you should have been the one to end it, rather than setting her up to do so over and over.

I think you are testing her each time you say it's not good and yet you don't act on it. It's a way to bait her to keep coming back.

And she is obviously confused.

 

If it is truly wrong in your eyes, do the right thing.

I don't think this will end the way you want it to. . especially seeing that she making new male friends.

She obviously was attached to you based on a lie.

She will detach completely at some point and time.

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I see your point but idk maybe I'm not explaining myself well but I have stopped talking to her and she then gets mad saying that I don't care about her etc so I feel bad and we talk again

 

Then don't respond and block her. She has become dependent upon you as someone to talk to and she has not filled that void yet. Just end it and get rid of your "guy" profile and block her number on your phone.

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