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I've never had a problems in part relationships due to porn but I've also never had a partner lie about it either. I've been with my fella for 7 years and we have a 8 month old daughter. One night I was sitting in the lounge room when I say out the corner of my eye my bf poke his head around the corner and when I looked up at him if darted back to bed and prevented to be asleep. My only thought was hes about to have a wank (in past relationships I could always talk about anything like that so I assumed the same with this one). When I brought it up if bluntly lied to me. Usually if I ask a random question he always wants to know why but this time he didn't. I started to notice we weren't having as much sex and he was rejecting me a lot. My mind started to get a little crazy and I started setting my phone on record and leaving it in our bedroom, this is VERY unusual behaviour for me. Every recording was him jerking off. I tried more and more to have sex with him but still got rejected. I started going to bed earlier and to my surprise he started falling asleep on the couch. So I started going to bed with Jess clothes on and still he wasn't interested. I become obsessed to the point of insanity. The more I recorded the worse I got, I confronted him a few times and he just said it was "all in my head". I started to not in to bed until after midnight and to my horror if was wanking the whole time I wasn't there. He use to hug of as soon as I got into bed and he completely stopped. One night I was sitting outside our bedroom door when I clearly heard him say something. When he got up for work I asked him why he would rather wank then have sex with me. He went crazy with anger, for the first time in our relationship he actually scared me. After he went to work I got my phone and listened to the 4hour recording. I Downloaded a sound equaliser so I could adjust the noise and hear clearly what he had said, but when I did that I heard the porn clear as day and I went though all my recordings and it was on every one. I was shocked I couldn't understand why he would lie about it. After that I really did lose my mind, he kept telling me I was f*#d in the head and that I was trying to destroy our relationship. Anyway one night he invited me to bed and yep we had sex, afterwards I got up to go outside and before I had fully shut the door I heard the porn again, so to be sure I took my phone back in recording of course and yep as soon as I left he started watching porn. I broke my heart. I felt so worthless and low and as usual he told me it was all me and I need professional help. A few other things happened after that. He hasn't got his phone any more and our relationship is back to what it was. But he still hasn't told me the truth he just gets incredibly angry and blocks me out. Now I don't trusts a word he says too me... What can I do I love him but I can't trust him. Has anyone else been thought this? Or just has an opinion. Please any comments no wastes how brutal will be much appreciated.

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