lmbenton Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 I really didn't know what to put this under. I've been working where I am now in manufacturing for over a year now and I have a knack for it. I know I am pretty and I am a nice person but I tend to keep to myself. My children is why I cannot/ and dislike conflict at work. It's like being in high school. I refuse to date anyone at work since the place seems to thrive on drama from the main department line they have. Anyway I was transferred into a different department. Where I had to converse with other employees occasionally to make sure all subs, for the machines we build on a daily bases are done. This guy I work with in the department was in a rocky relationship when I first started working in it and also he is a cousin of my BFF. He had confided in me his rocky relationship that expressed to everyone in the department. Since she works in another department he just didn't want drama to start on her end and effect him in ours.They have been in a on and off relationship and she has had flings with some of the guys from work while they were trying to work through it. (I really could careless) But because she saw that he was talking to me, the same that I would talk to any coworkers at my department. Regardless thats where this all started. I had seen a post that she had wrote about me to her ??? boyfriend/coworker. I had seen it because I was switching my station and he just got done his shift. He was checking his Facebook. I was waiting for him to finish up so i could switch. It was very nasty and childish. He had added me on Facebook a week prior to me seeing this. A couple days later I had messaged him and asked him about work. Then it got all weird, not something that I would expect him to ask me. And realized it was her going on her mans account. I made it clear to him/her that regardless of what she may think *is going on* it's not! And that I will not /never date a fellow coworker. Like any jealous girlfriend she didn't believe me. But after a few months she then started talking to me. Acted completely fine. Then after a few more months she gave me a nasty look and left the area. A couple days later I had to do subs that were the last on my to do. And my coworker had to do work orders which was in the same proximity. She came over and talked to another person close to the station. But subsequently looking over every few seconds? from what I was told. And eventually made her way to the station to talk to her boyfriend. She was asking how long he was going to be. Since they work two different shifts. What he was doing? Asked what else he had to do? insinuating that maybe the other coworker needs his help more than his current job. Even tho they needed to be done by the morning. She left in a huff. A couple days later she had fabricated a story to slander my name. Saying that I had a 5 sum. And it was with some of the guys at work. (All I could think of was if she knows so much about it she must of been apart of it, cause I don't remember.) She's trying so hard to get people to hate me for no justified reason. I've had numerous people tell me about her rants. So I don't know if it's because she thinks I'm taking her attention that she used to get? That I don't realize I'm getting? If she is truly a jealous girlfriend that no matter what I do she will be because i work in the same department as her boyfriend? I just don't know how to confront her about it. Please help!
Helpexpressme Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I would un-friend her boyfriend, avoid him unless work related, and tell her to grow up!
agent1607307371 Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 Don't confront her. And don't listen to people telling you this stuff - they might have good intentions, but they might also be playing a game of 'let you and her fight'. Stay away from her and her bf as much as possible and think about your kids.
lmbenton Posted November 20, 2015 Author Posted November 20, 2015 Don't confront her. And don't listen to people telling you this stuff - they might have good intentions, but they might also be playing a game of 'let you and her fight'. Stay away from her and her bf as much as possible and think about your kids. I have been trying my damnedest. Those two occasions was the first time i was there and. a couple weeks ago. Trust I want to just let it go. But socially I'm trying to start a business and I cannot have her slandering my name with her childish notions. I've been completely professional and trying to just ignore her high school ways and I've ignored them normally, even told him that she needs to stop and that I'm dating someone which is true. Hoping that she will just let it go. *sighs*
ParisPaulette Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 You need to go to your HR and/or your boss and let them know she is harassing you and spreading rumors. And you need to distance yourself from your other work colleague. He should not have been chatting you up about his personal problems and adding you to FB. That's where the whole thing started and it makes me wonder if he isn't feeding stories to his girlfriend about you. Distance yourself from both, but if you have an HR Department or a boss you could ask about them. In the meantime be professional, tell people who ask about rumors to consider the source, go about your business. At this point I'd probably even go so far as to remove myself from the guy's FB page and tell him you are not interested in office drama, so you're bowing out.
catfeeder Posted November 20, 2015 Posted November 20, 2015 I would mind my own business and do my work. Let 'stuff' play out around me however it will--I won't notice it, and it goes away.
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.