What do I do with this situation??

[Eloise1]

So I've been seeing this guy casually for a couple of months, we're both in the dorms at college and he comes over to say hi sometimes. I go over to his room to watch a movie once/twice a week and usually stay the night afterwards. We make out and stuff but no sex, just laughs and lotsa snuggling.

 

We talked in the beginning about "just seeing how long it lasts" and were both comfortable with that... But now after a couple of months of "keeping it casual" we're in that gray stage of not being sure what we really mean to each other.

 

I've put myself in a silly place because I told him at the start I wasn't usually a "public relationship" type of person and that I was chill with going with the flow. Only now, I'm at the point where I'd like to either take this further or move on.

 

To be honest, we're both pretty awkward about the status of our relationship. Yesterday was the first time he straight up asked if I wanted to come cuddle, instead of the usual "hey you wanna watch a movie?" that we both knew the meaning of but would never admit. He's usually the instigator (I don't go over to his room just to say hi, though he comes to ours) but we don't text much and around campus we'll smile and say hi and sit with each other in our friends group, but we don't really acknowledge the other stuff that's going on between us.

 

So I'm not sure if:

A. we're both playing it too "cool." Like I've been kind of unconsciously trying to get him to "prove" that he likes me by not instigating anything, and he's been trying not to seem like he cares too much because of what I said in the beginning

Or

B. He's genuinely not that interested in anything more than friends and cuddles

 

He's very sweet, smart, (etc etc) and I'd rather not drive him away. I just don't know how to proceed... Or if I should just be patient.

 

 

If I should talk to him, what do I say? How do I say it?

If I should ask him to spend some time hanging out (not just watching a movie) what should I suggest (bearing in mind we're on a very rural campus without cars)?

 

 

Help??!

Thanks

[mhowe]

There is either an epidemic of this stuff at college....or you have already posted this under a different name. Ellamae.....is this you again?

 

Same answer....either ask him if he wants to date...in public or stop showing up for a grope and a movie.

[Eloise1]

I think it's probably a common problem... Not knowing how to bring this up with guys... I for one am definitely confused...

[Eloise1]

And no, I'm not Ellame.

[mhowe]

Stop going over for a grope and a movie. Either you go out.on dates, in public, or you hang out as friend D's. But you aren't a bed buddy.

 

And rural colleges have speakers, exhibits, plenty of stuff to do.

[HeartGoesOn]

And no, I'm not Ellame.

 

Yes, you are. Multiple accounts are not allowed.

 

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