Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 So I recently started talking to this guy it's been 2 1/2 months things are so good. I went and met him (he lives in a different town) and we went out. He hugged me / kissed me we held hands he said your beautiful and told me he really likes me. Kept asking if we would still continue after this and I said yes .. But I'm so confused to know what we are now .. And I want to ask because I have really bad anxiety not knowing what's going on now that I'm back. How do I ask ??
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 You are a girl who has been on one date. Did either of you initiate plans to see each other. It would be his turn to come to your town.
DoF Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Allow him to prove to YOU that his words were true. IF they are, he will reach out and schedule something. If he is full of it (which are most likely the chances).......he won't. Take the words of a men that wants you with a grain of salt. His ACTIONS is what really matters. Fact that you came to HIM for 1st date = he is not too into you. When a man likes a woman, they go up and beyond to make things happen. I would say, keep dating.
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 We were going to wait and I went down anyway, he said he wants to spend New Years with me and would come down for christmas
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 I just want to ask what's up cause if he's done I don't wanna keep waiting and find out later rather then sooner
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 4 hours.. The roads are terrible in the winter but he said he'd make it work
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 This is not a tenable dating situation. If he has no plans on seeing you before Xmas, this is a complete waste of time.
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 We were going to wait and I went down anyway Wait for what? You invited yourself to visit him? How old are both of you?
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 No I was going down for a friends birthday he said he doesn't wanna rush things 22
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Two and a half months of texting isn't rushing things. It's a waste of time. I wouldn't expect a Christmas visit nor plans for NYE. Did you sleep with him?
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 Well this is disappointing I still want to ask him what's up just so I know how do I say it ?? And no we did not
Lasus83 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 This is not a tenable dating situation. If he has no plans on seeing you before Xmas, this is a complete waste of time. Agreed. 1.5 month-out plans are not even really "plans"... I barely make plans for the afternoon. No reason to burn bridges, though. Keep the tentative plans, if you like the fellow. But do not "hold out" for him. Pursue other options in the meantime. If you want to initiate contact, there's really not much to lose. Feel free to text/call him at your leisure. If he pulls away or doesn't reciprocate, nothing lost (b/c there's nothing there at the moment anyway). However, keep in mind two very important (yet difficult to achieve) things about relationships... and not just romantic relationships, either... even business, personal, financial... 1. The person with the least interest in the relationship has the most power. 2. People want what the feel they cannot have.
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Then ask him. But since you have texted all fall, and YOU made the effort to drive to him and he cannot even bother to try and see you before Xmas ---- what does it look like to you? Call him.
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 I just don't know how to word it this is what I'm stuck with - you guys are very helpful btw I appreciate it !
Helpanswermyq Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 What is the point of a guy telling you he really likes you ? I just don't understand people
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 If you cannot talk to this guy, how can you date him? Call (not text) and say: I enjoyed meeting you and would be interested in getting to know you in person. Do you think you could visit my town before Xmas. Then, when he makes excuses, tell him "I see. Well, this isn't going to work for me. Take care". And hang up.
mhowe Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 What is the point of a guy telling you he really likes you ? I just don't understand people You drove to visit him. Did you think he was going to say anything else?
Dcgent Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 if he really really really liked you, he would be in frequent communication and would want to see you often. He would make the effort to see you as often as possible. He sounds wishy washy. I would not bet any money on this progressing to a loving relationship. Sorry, just my advice as a guy.
DoF Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 4 hours.. The roads are terrible in the winter but he said he'd make it work Long distance relationship don't work. Stay away and disengage. Find someone local. Relationships NEED daily/on regular basis involvement. Engaging into Long Distance = sabotaging yourself from successful relationship. Sorry
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