A Comedy of errors.

[Coily]

I'm sharing these stories to vent, have a few laughs at myself, and maybe someone can clue me off on something I can't see.

 

During the course of this year I had more dates than usual, and I am very happy about that; all but one were from online dating.

 

So the first A, who I may have posted on in the past, she and I talked on the phone for about 2 weeks in which time I was over eager to meet for coffee ( or at least I think I was). We set the date and time, I checked on the day of for confirmation and instead of her usual prompt responses when texting I got dead silence. Went to locale just in case, and making sure it was I not she who was stood up; heck even checked obituaries the next few weeks locally and in her home town.

 

The second close on the heels of the first, E, was nice enough but between the first and second date I swear she wore the exact same outfit! Nice enough, but we didn't really click, she was talking more about her high school days (we are both in our early 30s) than she did about her life in the here and now. Not to mention I had to initiate 99% of the communications, so I let that one go.

 

Months passed then J and I started talking, then dating. The first date was quickly followed by a second, however the normal get to know you conversations turned to one of theology. A little heady for a second date, but I've told myself that I will be brutally honest no matter what, and we had a good chat. A few more dates later, and things were progressing nicely; she brought up theology again only adding how she would like it if we attended the same services. After digesting it for a week I called it off, 5 dates was just too soon for that level of change and commitment.

 

Next up was A2, who I met through a mutual (and very close friend). After bantering a bit on social media, I asked if she was going to a local event; she then turned it into a get together and asked if she could bring a friend, which I had no objection to. Well that friend turned out to be: her friend, the friend's husband, and the friend's 8 year old son. Not only taken aback, but seriously awkward feeling now that not only was I trying to get to know a woman, I now had to be the 3rd wheel. After maybe 20-25 minutes of she and I alone out of the 2 hours there, she had to go as she rode with them and gave me a big hug saying we should do that again. Then after me reaching out after some very busy weeks for the both of us (and a funeral) told me that while I was very sweet, she didn't want to waste my time or hers! I laughed for quite some time on that!

 

Lastly K, lived about an hour away, not a problem for me. We chatted well, had a nice lingering first date. All seemed to be going very well; we even discussed further dates. I got nervous and spoke too much I guess. Afterward we exchanged some pleasantries, and next thing I know she ghosts on me and yet actively check my dating profile for weeks afterward.

 

Sorry for the length, as I said I needed to vent. The good part is I did break out more than usual, and if I can do that a lot of the guys on here can do the same with effort. About the worst I can say of my reactions was that I was disappointed and incredulous.

[shellyf62]

I feel your pain.

After deleting my OLD profile a while ago, I decided to dive back in again.

Started talking to a very nice man who seemed to want the same things as me.

We decided to meet halfway at a country pub at 6.00pm on Friday 13th (maybe I should have seen the sign)

At 3.45pm I get a text telling me he couldn't meet me & couldn't tell me why.

I asked if it was a raincheck or goodbye. He said a raincheck. I said ok, let me know when you are free then.

About an hour later I get another text saying he couldn't meet me at all, that he had had a huge panic attack over the thought of meeting me, and that he is finished with OLD.

I have hidden my profile again LOL