What should I say after first date?

[haleybear96]

I went out with a guy who my friend sent me up with this past weekend. A few days before the date, we texted quite a bit and go to know each other's hobbies, etc. It was a good date and I would like to go out again. I told him this at the end of the date and he said "Yeah we can go out again but I will be gone back home for the next 2 weeks for thanksgiving, so we will have to see." When I got home from the date, he texted me and said he had a good time and hoped I did too. We've texted some since the date, but he hasn't replied much like he did before the date. But when he does text me, he has asked me questions which makes me think he's still interested? Since the date, I have said to him "If we go out again we should go hiking next time." and I've dropped a few other hints like that. I'm someone who is very straightforward and I don't want to "waste" the next 3 weeks of my life worrying about whether or not he's interested or if I'm bothering him. Is it appropriate to text him something like "Hey I was just wondering if you do want to go on another date? I don't want to bother you if you are not interested" Or does that sound too clingy? Is there something better I could say? Or should I just wait it out in agony for the next 2 weeks??

[mhowe]

You have told him "we will have to see after Thanksgiving" and "if we go out". Perhaps your unbridled enthusiasm has given him pause?

[notalady]

I don't see her saying "we'll see"? He said it, no?

 

He sounds less than enthusiastic about setting up a second date. I'd just wait and definitely will not be sending that text you mentioned. You already made it clear that you'd like to go out on another date and even suggested an activity, he knows you're interested.

 

Why are you waiting in agony? It's just been one date. Go on and live your life, go on other dates, enjoy the holidays. Until he asks you out again, assume there won't be another date.

[mhowe]

Oops, my bad.

[j.man]

I totally misread it, too. Initially thought she was the one going on vacation.

 

Guy either isn't interested and is awful and letting people down or sees the bad timing for what it is and would rather just try to pick it back up when he returns instead of spending the next two weeks playing pen pal with you over SMS.

 

I'd scale back the expectations and let something, if anything, happen once he gets back. I think you've dropped enough hints.

[SoulTaker]

I don't see her saying "we'll see"? He said it, no?

 

He sounds less than enthusiastic about setting up a second date. I'd just wait and definitely will not be sending that text you mentioned. You already made it clear that you'd like to go out on another date and even suggested an activity, he knows you're interested.

 

Why are you waiting in agony? It's just been one date. Go on and live your life, go on other dates, enjoy the holidays. Until he asks you out again, assume there won't be another date.

 

I agree with notalady. You did your part in stating that you enjoyed the date and would like to see him again. It's now up to him to discuss the 2nd date.

 

His texting you and not bringing up the next date is a signal that he's not really interested, or is clueless (neither one is a good sign). To avoid coming across as needy, don't contact him. If he contacts you again, just say that you're waiting on him to discuss the next date.

 

It's now on him. If he doesn't go over it, or talks about other things, then he doesn't have a "high interest level" (time to date someone else).