Why does he act like this?

[Brickell1219]

Can anyone offer any options on how my ex might be feeling?

 

I was in a short term relationship (4 months) with a guy a work with (not directly). Things for the most part were great, amazing physical chemistry but he never really opened up to me too much emotionally. He ended things due to "something missing" in our relationship. The breakup was hard on me as I knew he was right but all he had to do was open it up and things would have been fine. I really had high hopes for us. He just seems to have commitment issues and enjoys his freedom too much. When he ended things he said he still wanted me in his life and to hang out and see me. A few weeks later he texted me saying he wanted me to see his new apartment but then never followed up with it (I still have yet to be invited over).

 

Its been 4 months since the breakup and he acts hot and cold with me. One week he will walk by my desk just to see me and say hi and offer me coffee, then the next week he wont look at me. He will also randomly text me to talk if we haven't talked in awhile but keeps the convo VERY short and sweet. This cycle has been going on since the breakup.

 

Questioning him through text about his strange behavior I think wouldn't be appropriate since he has a hard time opening up as it is. To really know how he is feeling I would have to hang out with him, but I wont initiate we get together since I was the dumpee. So the ball is in his court. I am really trying to let this guy go. This hot and cold behavior drives me nuts.

[SURPRISE]

My advice would be to move on and don't look back. Men tell women there is something missing when they are only interested in a sexual relationship because that woman is attractive yet they are not interested in a future for one reason or another. Generally they know what is missing but will not tell you either to string you along for more sex or to avoid hurting your feelings. I believe this is why it is so important to not have any sexual relationship too soon and try to get to know the person first. If you they are truly interested, they will wait.

[Movingforward3]

Trying to figure out ex behavior is like trying to figure out Pi. It's impossible. Keep moving on and ignore.