Harrys8732 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Hey guys I could really use some help right now, I'm having awful anxious feelings about my girlfriend but I don't know what about.. When I look at her/think of her, I get awful anxious feelings, like a bad feeling in my stomach and it makes me feel sad, it consumes me and makes me depressed. I love this girl with all my heart although we've only been together 3 months, I know I want to be with this girl for the long run as she's perfect in everyway! I recently went to the doctors about my anxiety and I am now on beta blockers, but they are still not stopping these feelings and I can't deal with it.. I want to stay with This girl and I'm not willing to end it, because I'd be lost without her... ANY HELP WOULD BE APPRECIATED
Coldarmy13 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 What exactly makes you anxious? Is there anything about her or her behavior that triggers this? Id also lower your expectations, she is NOT perfect in every way.
Harrys8732 Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 That's the thing, I don't know what's making me anxious, she does nothing wrong, there's something wrong on me end not hers...
dave_1966 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I'd be careful of anything your doctor gives you, particularly citalopram. You won't be anxious, but you also won't be having any erections for a while.
abitbroken Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Hey guys I could really use some help right now, I'm having awful anxious feelings about my girlfriend but I don't know what about.. When I look at her/think of her, I get awful anxious feelings, like a bad feeling in my stomach and it makes me feel sad, it consumes me and makes me depressed. I love this girl with all my heart although we've only been together 3 months, I know I want to be with this girl for the long run as she's perfect in everyway! I recently went to the doctors about my anxiety and I am now on beta blockers, but they are still not stopping these feelings and I can't deal with it.. I want to stay with This girl and I'm not willing to end it, because I'd be lost without her... ANY HELP WOULD BE APPRECIATED If they only thing that makes you anxious is this girl, then I might stop seeing this girl.It sounds like something negative is going on in the relationship if just the thought of her causes you towards depression anxiety and the need for beta blockers.
Harrys8732 Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 I've only just started getting these feelings, I've dealt with anxiety for about 6 months now. I've been incredibly happy for the first 3 months of my relationship! So why now am I getting this feeling? It confuses me...
DancingFool Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Perhaps because you are putting way too much pressure on this relationship and idolizing her. That does two things - lowers your own self worth and makes you feel like you are dependent on her. You are not, but your mind perceives that. When you feel dependent on something or someone, you are going to get anxious because you are no longer in charge of yourself and your own well being. So you are right that it's not about her, it's about you. First thing is you need to recognize that she is very much human and flawed and you were just fine before you met her. Second thing is that you might need to speak to a professional about this and I don't mean "here take some pills" because that won't help you. You need to address the perception issue and regain being in charge with yourself thing. Anyway, that's my guess and only a guess at what's going on with you. So take it for what it's worth and with a grain of salt.
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