putawetsuiton Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 My ex is an artist and he had a big break just after we broke up, I had been avoiding places he might be playing in my town to help my healing. (With detriment to social life), I am now a bit worried about seeing him being promoted by his record company in the near future when his album is complete this Winter. I have accidentally seen his picture come up on facebook events that my facebook friends are going to recently already. The first thing I asked him to do when we broke up was block me on Facebook so I couldn't see his profile, but he is coming up elsewhere and there's a chance he will be coming up more soon. Not sure how to deal with this. Also, you can't block event or artist pages apparently! only personal profiles.
Clinton Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Don't use social media for awhile if you can't block everything
DoF Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 You are dealing with jealousy.....get him out of your mind (successful or not). It doesn't matter. These are all SELF created fears. Deflect him from your brain the second thoughts of him come up OR when and if you see him etc. Just remove yourself/thoughts from it and be confident you will do so when and if that time comes!
Dcgent Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 If you are afraid of seeing things about him, then you need to change your daily lifestyle. Get off social media, change your groups of friend, take up new hobbies, move to a new city, etc... While some of those sound pretty extreme, and they are...this is just something you will have to accept and get over. Time to mature a bit more and accept reality. Make some small changes to better you life. Why would you ask someone to block you on Facebook, just have self control to not stalk the person. Isn't that easier and less shameful?
kathy679 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Don't go on social media. It will slow your healing.
Doc Blaze Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Also if you still have friends that see his stuff. Don't let them send you stuff or talk about him. One of my friends sent me a screenshot of my exes picture with a random quote and sent it to me even after I told everyone not to tell me about my ex..Had me a mess for a few days over something im piecing together and I don't even know the truth about.
DoF Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Also if you still have friends that see his stuff. Don't let them send you stuff or talk about him. One of my friends sent me a screenshot of my exes picture with a random quote and sent it to me even after I told everyone not to tell me about my ex..Had me a mess for a few days over something im piecing together and I don't even know the truth about. That's not a friend then. Or no longer a friend hehe
Doc Blaze Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 That's not a friend then. Or no longer a friend hehe He is immature. He has a good heart but doesn't think sometimes. I am really mad at him...I haven't talked to him since and I was like dude what seriously good could of came out of this. Ive been 3 weeks NC, and have not looked at any of her social media. SO yes, he is not on my X mas card list right now lol
No1 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I have a simple idea.. create a new FB account and start fresh. Or don't go on FB..
Dottieflanogon Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Facebook is crap, especially after a breakup. I say temporarily deactivate your fb account. At any rate, even if you only make it a week or so before logging in again, at least you'll have taken a short break from it.
putawetsuiton Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 . Time to mature a bit more and accept reality. Why would you ask someone to block you on Facebook, just have self control to not stalk the person. Isn't that easier and less shameful? I am mature thank you very much and definitely facing reality. There is nothing shameful about asking someone to block you if you think it will aid you in your recovery. It isn't about how he feels, it's about me and my recovery.
saluk Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I mean, you don't need to ask someone to block you... you just block them. It's a two-way operation - you no longer see their stuff and they no longer see yours. But yeah, the best thing for you would be to clamp down and limit where you go on the internet for a while. Deactivating your facebook would be great! I don't miss it at all when I go through periods where I avoid it. Also avoid entertainment news sites etc where it might come up. It may seem silly to go to such lengths, or like "why am I letting him control my life" but it really helps. Don't avoid out of fear, but just as extra protection. You don't need to go looking for pain for the small benefits that those sites provide.
Heartsonfire12 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I went through a similar thing today - my ex and I have some mutual friends and his darn face was in a picture and it made me nauseous. That's when I decided that, for now, I'll remove the Facebook app from my phone. I kept the messenger app in case someone wants to reach me, but I don't need to see his annoying face right now! I'd recommend you do the same - plus, you'd be shocked to realize how much time you are probably spending on there! Chin up!
putawetsuiton Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 I went through a similar thing today - my ex and I have some mutual friends and his darn face was in a picture and it made me nauseous. That's when I decided that, for now, I'll remove the Facebook app from my phone. I kept the messenger app in case someone wants to reach me, but I don't need to see his annoying face right now! I'd recommend you do the same - plus, you'd be shocked to realize how much time you are probably spending on there! Chin up! The messenger app is a good idea actually - thank you
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