Stop Me Before I Make a Fool of Myself

[JustStop]

I dated this guy for like 5 months or so.....about 5 years ago. I feel like he's "The One That Got Away" for me. He was ready for a relationship and I wasn't. In fact, I went as far as saying to him that I thought we weren't compatible. Now I feel like I missed out on a good thing. We've spoken maybe twice since then....I ran into him once while I was out and I contacted him on Facebook once about a year and a half ago to try to rekindle. The conversation was brief. Kind of a "Hey how are you?" vibe. Soooo now I'm thinking about seeing what he's up to....but I'm worried that these rekindled feelings I have are just loneliness and I don't want to reach out and regret it....or reach out for no reason. As I'm getting older and have no prospects...I fear that I'm just reminiscing to fill a void and should just leave it at that. Someone stop me before I make a fool of myself.

[annie24]

I think you have nothing to lose by asking him to catch up over dinner. Is he seeing anyone else as far as you can tell on Facebook?

[Capricorn3]

I dated this guy for like 5 months or so.....about 5 years ago. I feel like he's "The One That Got Away" for me. He was ready for a relationship and I wasn't. In fact, I went as far as saying to him that I thought we weren't compatible. Now I feel like I missed out on a good thing. We've spoken maybe twice since then....I ran into him once while I was out and I contacted him on Facebook once about a year and a half ago to try to rekindle. The conversation was brief. Kind of a "Hey how are you?" vibe. Soooo now I'm thinking about seeing what he's up to....but I'm worried that these rekindled feelings I have are just loneliness and I don't want to reach out and regret it....or reach out for no reason. As I'm getting older and have no prospects...I fear that I'm just reminiscing to fill a void and should just leave it at that. Someone stop me before I make a fool of myself.

 

It seems you have been the only one to ever make contact and after that, there's nothing - which would indicate to me that he shows no real interest.

I agree with the parts in bold above. You're looking for something/someone because you feel lonely so you want to reach out to anyone in the hopes that they respond. Only you know him and if there is any chance of him getting back to you. Going by his previous, what appears to be lack of interest, I'm not sure it's a great idea, but totally up to you.

[SpottiOtti]

It is possible that you are romanticizing him. And also, how do you know that he is anything today, like the guy you thought was so great 5 years ago?

 

That said, I think reaching out could be a valuable learning experience that you should not pass up. Ask him if he wants to meet up or something. What have you got to lose?