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Did he enjoy the sex? Clueless. How can you tell if a guy enjoyed sex with you?

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Hello!

 

First time poster here, great forum!

 

I really need some help with 'deciphering'' whether or not the guy I'm seeing enjoyed our sexual encounter last night? I'm feeling a bit nervous or perhaps insecure about my performance and the experience which happened last night.

 

Back ground information: he finds me very attractive (I'm his typical ''spec'' in terms of height, body type etc). We've been seeing each other for about 3 months and had messed around a few times prior to yesterday, but had sex for the first time last night. He lasted maybe 8 minutes ? (or less? I wasn't timing it) the first round before ejaculating. During this round of sex 91st round), he mentioned 'during his moans that ''I was turning him on". He ejaculated (and let out a slightly loud groan/moan in the process) and thereafter, we lay down to rest (I had no idea we would go for another round because I've never had sex twice in a span of less than one hour).

 

Shortly after, he made some flirtatious comments and started touching me again saying he wanted a second round. This time around, I think he lasted five minutes or so...just before he ejaculated for the second time, he started thrusting faster/harder which culminated in what seemed to be explosive orgasm/ejaculation (on his part). He let out a pretty loud and sustained groan before collapsing on his bed. We cuddled for a bit before he fell into a deep slumber. I tried to ''ride'' him at some point, but I was a bit sore so don't think I did a spectacular job in that particular regard.

 

Also, in between the rounds, I gave him 2 blow jobs last night (for the first time as well). He told me (whilst I was giving him a second blowjob) that I was doing an amazing job (he's really big on blowjobs, seems to like them a lot). When he said ''youre doing an amazing job'' my response was ''really?"' to which he said ''yes of course, why else would I have requested for another blowjob?''

 

My question is: how can you tell when a guy enjoys sex with you? It was our first time and we haven't really discussed the sexual encounter so naturally I feel a bit insecure. From the information provided, does it seem like he enjoyed the encounter?

 

Thanks so much reading.

j.man Grand Master

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It's difficult to say. Every guy is different. For me, personally, if it's one thing I hate, it's when I ejaculate during sex. Last night, my girlfriend was so bad at sex that I came. I don't know if I can keep seeing her.

ParisPaulette Rising Star

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Clinton and j.man, helpexpress be nice. (Smiles and rolls eyes)

 

Trust me, as many times as that man reached his happy hour you did just fine.

 

Take the semi-humorous and semi-silly comments from the men as a thumbs up too. If the guy doesn't see you again he's a complete and utter moron, but I think he will.

Livie2014 Newbie

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Thanks a million for all your responses, including the sarcastic ones lol. My question might come across as silly but it's genuine. I'm particularly conscious because he's been vocal about how sexual he is as a person and how he enjoys confidence in a woman. He also has a fair amount of experience. Bear in mind also that I held out for a few months and you know what they say about expectations and the build-up to the first time. Coupled also with the fact that im not the most confident of persons, although I'm trying to be and lastly, that this was our first time together.

 

He seemed to enjoy it and was definitely into it, but thanks for your assurances. I guess he must have enjoyed it enough to go for a second round...

tiredofvampires Proficient

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Having to ask a ton of strangers on the internet to reassure you you did all the right things for your lover doesn't seem all that emotionally healthy. It's kind of like if you cooked him a meal and told us the blow-by-blow (no pun intended) gestures and sounds he made during the meal and on what dish he was eating, and then asking, "Did my guy like the dinner I cooked for him?" You know? It's for you to feel these responses, in your body and his, and with your own intuition.

 

How old are you?

 

It was our first time and we haven't really discussed the sexual encounter so naturally I feel a bit insecure.

 

It's "natural" for you to feel insecure if you're not having a discussion about the sex the night before? I don't think that's terribly "natural". Having your partner tell you the next day at some point, "That was incredible" is always affirming, but I don't expect the report card/discussion you seem to be expecting.

 

My question is: how can you tell when a guy enjoys sex with you?

 

1. He "finds me very attractive"

2. He "mentions during his moans 'you're turning me on'"

3. He "lets out a slightly loud groan/moan" upon first ejaculation

4. He plays with me afterwards and says he wants another round

5. He lets out a "pretty loud and sustained groan" upon second ejaculation, in "what seemed to be an explosive orgasm"

6. He tells me I'm "doing an amazing job" while blowing him

7. He affirms that yet again verbally by saying, "why do you think I would have requested another blow job?"

 

I think my question to you is, what additional sign were you looking for?

tiredofvampires Proficient

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Quite an entertaining story .

I do wonder though , the first round was 8 min and the second was 5 min ? What the heck?

 

I was thinking that, too.

 

I'm also wondering, how is it that you're clocking each act of coitus to the minute? If someone I was with was that keen to be checking their watch or timing it in their head, I'd feel actually a bit insecure myself, or at least thrown off/turned off. I'd rather know they're in the moment with me, losing themselves in it, not clocking it.

Livie2014 Newbie

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Having to ask a ton of strangers on the internet to reassure you did all the right things for your lover doesn't seem all that emotionally healthy.

 

How old are you?

 

 

 

It's "natural" for you to feel insecure if you're not having a discussion about the sex the night before? I don't think that's terribly "natural". Having your partner tell you the next day at some point, "That was incredible" is always affirming, but I don't expect the report card/discussion you seem to be expecting.

 

 

 

1. He "finds me very attractive"

2. He "mentions during his moans 'you're turning me on'"

3. He "lets out a slightly loud groan/moan" upon first ejaculation

4. He plays with me afterwards and says he wants another round

5. He lets out a "pretty loud and sustained groan" upon second ejaculation, in "what seemed to be an explosive orgasm"

6. He tells me I'm "doing an amazing job" while blowing him

7. He affirms that yet again verbally by saying, "why do you think I would have requested another blow job?"

 

I think my question to you is, what additional sign were you looking for?

 

 

I'm 28years old. Thanks for breaking it down like you've done, it puts things into perspective. I guess I watch too many Hollywood movies hence my expectations.

 

I'm an insecure person naturally ( not a good thing) but I'm working on it. Thanks again for reading and for your response.

Livie2014 Newbie

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Quite an entertaining story .

I do wonder though , the first round was 8 min and the second was 5 min ? What the heck?

 

I've read that the longer a man takes to ejaculate, the mess pleasurable it is. So basically, when the sex is very good, the man is likely to cum much faster ? ( particularly when having sex without a condom due to the increased sensitivity). For this reason, I tend to get a bit nervous when a guy goes on for a long stretch, which makes me time conscious during sexual encounters. I don't think he exceeded 10minutes tops per round. Probably less during the second round.

dias Grand Master

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I know....it didn't seem quit legit to me either! But the guys enjoyed the read!

I have to admit , i laughed a lot .It was pretty funny with all the moaning/groaning

tiredofvampires Proficient

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I'm 28years old. Thanks for breaking it down like you've done, it puts things into perspective. I guess I watch too many Hollywood movies hence my expectations.

 

Well yeah, Hollywood jacks everyone up on this score. But even if they put you and your guy in a scene on a set, what you described would probably be script-worthy, per your description. "And, cut!"/Scene. Like I said, what else would you be looking to see happen? Lol, @ Realitynut, yeah, I mean this thread has probably made a few male posters a bit stiff, and there isn't even the video aid, so...

 

Note, OP, I also edited my post (#11) a bit at the top after I posted it. I added a few sentences.

 

It's good you're working on your self-confidence. It does sound like that needs work.

dias Grand Master

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I've read that the longer a man takes to ejaculate, the mess pleasurable it is. So basically, when the sex is very good, the man is likely to cum much faster ? ( particularly when having sex without a condom due to the increased sensitivity). For this reason, I tend to get a bit nervous when a guy goes on for a long stretch, which makes me time conscious during sexual encounters. I don't think he exceeded 10minutes tops per round. Probably less during the second round.

I don't know if you are mocking us but let's say you don't .How is it possible the first time to last more than the second?

 

"I've read that the longer a man takes to ejaculate, the mess pleasurable it is" : Oh boy

Livie2014 Newbie

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I don't know if you are mocking us but let's say you don't .How is it possible the first time to last more than the second?

 

"I've read that the longer a man takes to ejaculate, the mess pleasurable it is" : Oh boy

 

That was a typo, meant to write "the longer a man takes to ejaculate, the LESS pleasurable it is".

dias Grand Master

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That was a typo, meant to write "the longer a man takes to ejaculate, the LESS pleasurable it is".
I was not referring to the typo. The time to ejaculate depends mostly on the period you hadn't had sex before the present "action". Sexual desire is the second factor but it has way less gravity
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Apparently, there is a new Apple watch app that records amount of time for each sexual encounter

 

Seriously, If you had several rounds and several blow jobs with multiple orgasams, he enjoyed it.

 

Feel free to update us on the next rounds, so we can critique your performance

greta96 Community Regular

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All this fuss, and I don't see you mentioning anything about how *you* enjoyed it! Unless I missed it of course lol...

It's not all about how much he liked it...how much you liked it matters too!

DoF Rookie

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All this fuss, and I don't see you mentioning anything about how *you* enjoyed it! Unless I missed it of course lol...

It's not all about how much he liked it...how much you liked it matters too!

 

I agree, why are you so concerned about HIM?

 

Did you enjoy it? If you did, chances are he did too.

 

Anyways........keep us posted how your relationship develops (or dies) now that intimacy is in the picture. I'm curious to see his actions now hehe

ParisPaulette Rising Star

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Real post or not the guy definitely enjoyed it.

 

Now, if they sort of take two minutes, are done, then roll over and grab the remote saying, "Hey, Jay Leno is on!" THEN you worry they didn't have a good time.

 

And presumably you liked it too? You do know you don't have to a porn actress and fake enjoyment or worry that your performance is off and the director is going to scream "Cut, cut! Who hired you, who told you that you could act?" Your enjoyment matters here too, not just his.

 

I presume you were not staring at the ceiling imagining what it'd look like is Sunset Orange or that new paint they've got down at the hardware store called Dove Grey.

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