A little advice

[jedimafia]

Hi guys, posted a few times in the last few weeks so bear with me.

 

Bring up to speed, me and my partner ended (she ended it) cause I had some insecurities which ive started getting counselling for, well after a few days of NC she wanted to give it another go, we met up and I thought it went well, she then broke it off again, then 7 days later she broke NC and told me she couldn't bear me not to be in her life and thought of me with someone else sickens her, she agreed she messed my head up breaking up twice and wanted to take things slower, as a lot of stuff during our relationship was rushed, so we agreed to take it slower, leading upto the day I saw her, she was texting me telling me she cant wait to see me, misses me, getting butterflies, met up, was lovely, cuddles, kisses and s**

 

Since Sunday it's different, she's texting me but not the way she used to, she's holding back her feelings as she doesn't want to rush this but has said she wants to make us work, she's told me the breaks on the feelings are on hold and it will take time, that we're in the right place we should be relationship wise at this point in time, we are unofficially together as she hasn't told her kids yet.

 

Now my point is, I am a secret as such and am on edge to the point I think she could end it at any point, she isnt texting big messages anymore, its hard to adapt from where we were (constant texts, pic messages from her telling me i am her one) to practically nothing like that, she never tells me she loves me, it's odd and its getting me down again, im due to see her sunday so do you think its wise I have a chat ?

[DoF]

She is unpredictable, she doesn't love you with action, she can't make up her mind, she changes her mind.....all traits of a person that is NOT a long term relationship material. Think about it, what kind of a person "puts brakes on the feelings/on hold". There is no such a thing, she id dangling HOPE in front of you in hopes that you believe her. You either have feelings or you don't. You can't just "put them on hold", that's just crazy.

 

I would end it > recover/heal for few months and one day find a person that is.

 

OR accept what has been/is FOREVER.

 

Ask her to not contact you again and proceed to block her/ignore her going forward. She will do everything to sabotage your healing process, so DO NOT allow her to do so by contacting her back.

 

Rid of this creature from your life is your only solution.

 

And your feelings of her unpredictable nature are simply a result of HISTORY. Nothing less and nothing more. History is the BEST indicator of the future!!!

 

you said she had kids? What happened to father? Why did they break up. I have a feeling this would tell you everything you need to know about this person WHILE you were dating her. You probably missed some clear red flags (I have a feeling)

[TMifune]

If you feel that you have to walk on eggshells and tiptoe around your feelings, then the relationships is never going to work. What's the point if you can't share with your partner how you're feeling?